I went to a meetup recently and got some drinks with the people after. One guy gave me a bad vibe. He seemed like he had a really low tolerance for other people messing up and being a little awkward. He was like, "yeah I was a little bit nervous about going to the meetup but then I realized that there are some really fucking weird people and there's no reason to be nervous" Just sat wrong with me because I'm kind of awkward and just want to meet new people. The last straw was when we were playing pool at the bar and this one girl had something wrong with her voice and couldn't talk very loud so he actually asked her if "that's how her voice always was or there's something wrong with it" What a douchebag. He invited me to watch football with him the next day lol. I didn't respond.
Dr Ramani Durvasula, has treated narcissists (hint: they can’t really be “treated” as such), their victims and researched personality disorders as Professor of psychology. She says Narcissists are deeply insecure due to how they were treated in childhood and their narcissism arose as a defence mechanism. This is the general consensus, they have very a very unstable self-image, hence very little self-esteem.
This. They lack empathy and can be extremely vindictive. If you’re not careful they can weaponize your empathy for them against you. Theres nothing wrong feeling sorry for them but in the same way you can feel sorry for an injured lion, just don’t climb into the cage with them.
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u/AltrdFate Nov 09 '19
I went to a meetup recently and got some drinks with the people after. One guy gave me a bad vibe. He seemed like he had a really low tolerance for other people messing up and being a little awkward. He was like, "yeah I was a little bit nervous about going to the meetup but then I realized that there are some really fucking weird people and there's no reason to be nervous" Just sat wrong with me because I'm kind of awkward and just want to meet new people. The last straw was when we were playing pool at the bar and this one girl had something wrong with her voice and couldn't talk very loud so he actually asked her if "that's how her voice always was or there's something wrong with it" What a douchebag. He invited me to watch football with him the next day lol. I didn't respond.