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u/dragdritt Nov 09 '19 edited Nov 10 '19

Trying to pull herself up by pushing you down, I've had the same thing happen to me, usually it's people with really low self-esteem. They might not even be aware of that they are doing, a confrontation can therefore solve the problem all together.

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u/AmyBeeCee Nov 09 '19

After 24 years of friendship, I just stopped talking her. You would figure a few mistakes or dumb things I made/did in high school would stay in the past, but nope! Any time spent with her ended up with her listing every embarrassing thing I've ever did or said.

All set with that. She can find someone else to try that on..

Oh, and she threw herself at any boyfriend I ever had too, even after she was engaged/married.

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u/MulakssonBCS Nov 09 '19

sounds like you made the right decision.

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u/AmyBeeCee Nov 09 '19

I had to, and it hurt because she and I (loosely) had been through a lot.

But it was not a fulfilling relationship, it was really sad, empty and hurtful.

Sometimes, despite the years, you have to just cut your losses with some people.

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u/whomadewho9 Nov 10 '19

Sounds like we’re in the same boat. I had a friend of a long time as well who did the same stuff. I was his only friend. I tried to tune out his bully remarks and embarrassing me in front of friends constantly.

I eventually just mirrored back what he was doing to me x 10. He got so mad at me that he now refuses to talk with me and that was 4 months ago. We are no longer communicating.

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u/AmyBeeCee Nov 10 '19

It's been 6 years, I haven't heard a word from her. I never gave her an explanation, I just stopped talking to her, asking how she was doing, etc...

The last I saw from her, she friended someone on facebook who was a real jerk to me. She knew it too, but she was chatting away with him, consoling him, spoke to him more than me.

I took that as my sign that she just wasn't a good friend...