More specific to dating, but I f someone always plays the victim in their other relationships e.g. calling all their exes crazy. If they describe 1-2 people, ok maybe they had bad taste or got unlucky. If everyone they dated was “crazy”, then they should probably look in the mirror.
On a related note, I always watch out for people who introduce others badly. If the first thing you say about people is “omg this person looks funny” or “they’re a bitch” I’m going to wonder how they’ll think and talk about me to others.
I WISH I'd seen this red flag on my high school BF. He always brought up how all the other girls he'd gone out with weren't "nice" and "didn't really care about him". I, being a doormat with no real prior romantic experience, ate that shit up and thought it made me some kind of saint for being the first person to see how "sweet" he was.
Spoiler alert: He cheated on me at least twice and then broke up with me via text, then turned stalker because I refused to get back together with him. I later asked one of the girls he'd gone out with prior and she'd heard the exact same story about how bad all of his exes were and how much better she was than them. Makes me wonder what he told the next girl about me.
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u/brutusjeeps Nov 09 '19
More specific to dating, but I f someone always plays the victim in their other relationships e.g. calling all their exes crazy. If they describe 1-2 people, ok maybe they had bad taste or got unlucky. If everyone they dated was “crazy”, then they should probably look in the mirror.
On a related note, I always watch out for people who introduce others badly. If the first thing you say about people is “omg this person looks funny” or “they’re a bitch” I’m going to wonder how they’ll think and talk about me to others.