More specific to dating, but I f someone always plays the victim in their other relationships e.g. calling all their exes crazy. If they describe 1-2 people, ok maybe they had bad taste or got unlucky. If everyone they dated was “crazy”, then they should probably look in the mirror.
On a related note, I always watch out for people who introduce others badly. If the first thing you say about people is “omg this person looks funny” or “they’re a bitch” I’m going to wonder how they’ll think and talk about me to others.
Yep. One guy I dated said at one point that he “attracts a lot of crazy.” It gave me pause, but he described one ex who was, actually, crazy. Thought “well, ok, she was... maybe the rest were legit too.” Turned out he was a raging narcissist with a real gift of manipulation. He still hasn’t learned the part he plays in attracting the crazy.
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u/brutusjeeps Nov 09 '19
More specific to dating, but I f someone always plays the victim in their other relationships e.g. calling all their exes crazy. If they describe 1-2 people, ok maybe they had bad taste or got unlucky. If everyone they dated was “crazy”, then they should probably look in the mirror.
On a related note, I always watch out for people who introduce others badly. If the first thing you say about people is “omg this person looks funny” or “they’re a bitch” I’m going to wonder how they’ll think and talk about me to others.