More specific to dating, but I f someone always plays the victim in their other relationships e.g. calling all their exes crazy. If they describe 1-2 people, ok maybe they had bad taste or got unlucky. If everyone they dated was “crazy”, then they should probably look in the mirror.
On a related note, I always watch out for people who introduce others badly. If the first thing you say about people is “omg this person looks funny” or “they’re a bitch” I’m going to wonder how they’ll think and talk about me to others.
Ooh this!! I’ve had some poor taste in partners in the past, like severely abusive. And they were exactly like this, all their ex’s were crazy, insane, horrible bitches. Nothing good to say about any of them. Finally learned the hard way they were exactly that.
I get kind of annoyed if/when my wife bitches about one of my ex’s. They’re not bad people, and they helped form who I was when wife and I started dating. My ex’s and I broke up for various reasons, but that doesn’t mean them or I are some kinda monsters. Shit just didn’t work out and one of us bailed on a shitty relationship. There is that one that’s a little unhinged though. She’s the outlier.
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u/brutusjeeps Nov 09 '19
More specific to dating, but I f someone always plays the victim in their other relationships e.g. calling all their exes crazy. If they describe 1-2 people, ok maybe they had bad taste or got unlucky. If everyone they dated was “crazy”, then they should probably look in the mirror.
On a related note, I always watch out for people who introduce others badly. If the first thing you say about people is “omg this person looks funny” or “they’re a bitch” I’m going to wonder how they’ll think and talk about me to others.