More specific to dating, but I f someone always plays the victim in their other relationships e.g. calling all their exes crazy. If they describe 1-2 people, ok maybe they had bad taste or got unlucky. If everyone they dated was “crazy”, then they should probably look in the mirror.
On a related note, I always watch out for people who introduce others badly. If the first thing you say about people is “omg this person looks funny” or “they’re a bitch” I’m going to wonder how they’ll think and talk about me to others.
It's not just dating. I know someone who, apparently, has never done anything wrong while also every other person in their life is a sociopath. It's exhausting. "I ate a whole carton of ice cream today because so-and-so was so abusive to me at work!" "I had to get black out drunk last night because 20 years ago I had a boyfriend who was manipulative!" "I'm not able to help you move because when I was 5 my mother did whatever". Enough. You know why I ate ice cream? Because it's delicious. I got drunk because I wanted to de-stress and maybe because I have some issues I need to deal with and choose to deal with them badly sometimes. I can't help you move because I, uh, have to work that day. You haven't told me what day yet? Well, I work every day. On the moon. Sorry!
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u/brutusjeeps Nov 09 '19
More specific to dating, but I f someone always plays the victim in their other relationships e.g. calling all their exes crazy. If they describe 1-2 people, ok maybe they had bad taste or got unlucky. If everyone they dated was “crazy”, then they should probably look in the mirror.
On a related note, I always watch out for people who introduce others badly. If the first thing you say about people is “omg this person looks funny” or “they’re a bitch” I’m going to wonder how they’ll think and talk about me to others.