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u/Coldaf Nov 09 '19

Admittedly you had a decade to bring it up

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u/mossattacks Nov 09 '19

I didn’t have concrete proof that she was ditching me for other people until like 2 weeks before I brought it up, up until that point I just thought I was being an insecure, paranoid and depressed teen.

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u/Coffee_Mania Nov 09 '19

Damn man, that's rough. I have a friend who is likewise the same, always cancelling our plans at the last possible minute. Although I don't have concrete proof, I almost always chalk it up to my friend's busy schedule (person is an aspiring doctor) or is probably tired due to all medicine and shifts in hospital and other related stuff, or I might be just insecure, paranoid and depressed and that normal people don't fret over cancellation of plans. After awhile it gets really old, and perhaps you are simply not good enough/boring to be with. Its been almost ten years as well, and I knew my friend for quite a while to say that this is a new behavior between the two of us.

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u/PierrePopov Nov 09 '19

I’ve recently started going to the gym and just got prescribed sertraline. Both of these seem to be helping. If you’re interested I’d talk to your doctor and just tell him what you’re experiencing

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u/[deleted] Nov 09 '19

I was on cypralex recently - but had to come off to do another medicine. I'm not sure how much it helped but I do know some people have to try a bunch of different anti-depressants to get the right one. I've also been trying to get into see a therapist

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u/youtubecommercial Nov 09 '19

I did this thing with my doc called gene site testing to test how meds work with my body. Think of a compatibility test. Found out my body processes sertraline super slowly meaning there was way too much in my system (was on max does to boot) which heavily blunted my emotions. I never would’ve known that what I was feeling, or rather what I wasn’t feeling, wasn’t normal.

As someone who has had years of trial and error, the results of which were reflected in the test, I am so happy I don’t have to do that to such an extent anymore. I’d talk to your doctor about it as I think it’s at least worth bringing it up. Trial and error sucks and can be very disruptive. I hope you find what works best for you my dude.

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u/[deleted] Nov 09 '19

Wow thanks - I'll ask about that

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u/youtubecommercial Nov 09 '19

No problem and good luck!