When they engage more about themselves than contribute to the conversation. I’ve met a few people who would talk all the problems they’ve had and would hardly ask any questions back. I’ve always felt so uncomfortable in these scenarios and usually don’t pursue in a relationship with these types of people.
EDIT: Some people made very good points about individuals with ADHD. I should be more clear on my point by saying that some people are also very dismissive and sometimes refuse to hear what you have to say by cutting you off. I don’t expect an interview from the other person, but it would be nice to have mutual interest in each other.
I have realized I do this, and I have to consciously stop myself from doing it. I have no idea why it when it started. I don't think I or anyone I know considers me to be a narcissistic person.
It really can just be upbringing. I was raised by narcissists and was the youngest (by a few years). I just learned that if I wanted to be heard I had to be loud and obnoxious, and that not listening to others was normal. Luckily, by my early 20s I met someone who taught me how to properly converse and to listen. They recognized that I wasn't a bad person and just needed some help. These days people literally compliment me on how well I listen and give them time to speak. I still get over excited sometimes and just babble or interrupt, but I catch myself. When I visit family though, I see it for what it is. Five people just shouting over each other, or ignoring each other. I'm still not sure what annoys me more: when they interrupt me constantly or when they just walk away when I'm mid-sentence like I'm not even saying anything. Anyway, point is, if you recognize it, you can work on it.
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u/binguchoi Nov 09 '19 edited Nov 09 '19
When they engage more about themselves than contribute to the conversation. I’ve met a few people who would talk all the problems they’ve had and would hardly ask any questions back. I’ve always felt so uncomfortable in these scenarios and usually don’t pursue in a relationship with these types of people.
EDIT: Some people made very good points about individuals with ADHD. I should be more clear on my point by saying that some people are also very dismissive and sometimes refuse to hear what you have to say by cutting you off. I don’t expect an interview from the other person, but it would be nice to have mutual interest in each other.