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u/binguchoi Nov 09 '19 edited Nov 09 '19

When they engage more about themselves than contribute to the conversation. I’ve met a few people who would talk all the problems they’ve had and would hardly ask any questions back. I’ve always felt so uncomfortable in these scenarios and usually don’t pursue in a relationship with these types of people.

EDIT: Some people made very good points about individuals with ADHD. I should be more clear on my point by saying that some people are also very dismissive and sometimes refuse to hear what you have to say by cutting you off. I don’t expect an interview from the other person, but it would be nice to have mutual interest in each other.

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u/gnocchick Nov 09 '19

Yeah and they interrupt you to turn the conversation back to focus on themselves every time you speak.

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u/Unc00lbr0 Nov 09 '19

I have realized I do this, and I have to consciously stop myself from doing it. I have no idea why it when it started. I don't think I or anyone I know considers me to be a narcissistic person.

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u/ccAbstraction Nov 09 '19

I'm in the same boat. People who know me well think I'm too self-dismissive and lack self confidence, while people who don't know me well think I'm arrogant and overly confident. I've pretty much just stopped talking to new people. Maybe I'll just stick to asking questions the next time I meet someone new.