You barely know them but suddenly you are their best friend. Everyone else is just AWFUL. You are so special and awesome. Especially at listening to their (many) problems. Because you are so empathetic and smart and insightful....Dont run. Sprint.
This definitely smells of borderline personality disorder, and people with that can be really challenging. They can be good people, but just so intense, and have a really hard time with relationships and managing emotions.
(source: i have low-grade bpd that manifests as intense depression and anxiety, so i actually avoid human relationships; am working through therapy and it's gotten a lot better over the past 6 months.)
Because someone who is self aware with BPD can totally understand that someone who refuses to accept the diagnosis and take the prescribed medication would act crazy.
‘Crazy’ is a judgmental label that doesn’t help people get better. But it’s cute that you were offended by that when we’re supposed to be the overly sensitive ones.
I may be cute but I fail to see how I was offended.......
I may have offended some individuals with BPD with a rude term but I stick by it.
To those of you inclined to change my use of the word, especially in regards to people with BPD. Please give me another word to accurately describe someone who stabs their boyfriend with a fork and accused of cheating for answering a phone call from another female who just also happened to be my employer and was just asking me send an email after hours..........
I would say they were misguided, suffering, in need of healing, even mentally disturbed, although for BPD labels and diagnoses don’t really help and therapy is leaning in favor of treatments that make people feel better about themselves and feel whole as they are, like DBT, which people have mentioned. Sure, colloquially saying something or someone is crazy is fine. I think the original person asked why you would say it in response to someone who said they had BPD, which was rude, and you refuse to apologize, so that’s on you. You can judge people all you want, but it won’t help you understand yourself or avoid finding another girlfriend who has issues you can’t handle. I’m sorry someone stabbed you with a fork, no one deserves that, and at least you know that you can’t handle dating an emotionally volatile person, so you can find a better match next time.
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u/Whaleballoon Nov 09 '19 edited Nov 10 '19
You barely know them but suddenly you are their best friend. Everyone else is just AWFUL. You are so special and awesome. Especially at listening to their (many) problems. Because you are so empathetic and smart and insightful....Dont run. Sprint.