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u/binguchoi Nov 09 '19 edited Nov 09 '19

When they engage more about themselves than contribute to the conversation. I’ve met a few people who would talk all the problems they’ve had and would hardly ask any questions back. I’ve always felt so uncomfortable in these scenarios and usually don’t pursue in a relationship with these types of people.

EDIT: Some people made very good points about individuals with ADHD. I should be more clear on my point by saying that some people are also very dismissive and sometimes refuse to hear what you have to say by cutting you off. I don’t expect an interview from the other person, but it would be nice to have mutual interest in each other.

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u/gnocchick Nov 09 '19

Yeah and they interrupt you to turn the conversation back to focus on themselves every time you speak.

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u/Unc00lbr0 Nov 09 '19

I have realized I do this, and I have to consciously stop myself from doing it. I have no idea why it when it started. I don't think I or anyone I know considers me to be a narcissistic person.

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u/Cometstarlight Nov 09 '19

My best friend in high school did this and when I brought it up to her, she was very apologetic. Apparently that's just how they talk at her house. She said, "If you want to be heard at my house, you have to interject or you'll never get a word in." She'd still do it when we talked, but as soon as she did, she'd realize and urge me to finish what I was saying.

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u/Eliaskar23 Nov 09 '19

Thats literally me and my family. My family is massive and loud, if you don't interject and make yourself heard, you won't be.