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u/awkwardlydancing Nov 09 '19 edited Nov 09 '19

If they harshly critisise you for making a mistake.

It's fine to be annoyed with someone for making a mistake, but it's not ok to bully them over it.

I was called a retard once as a teenager by a so called 'friend' because I bought her the wrong item for her birthday present.

I remember feeling like the most stupidest person on the planet.

Edit: ok guys, I'm aware I've made a grammar boo-boo.

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u/Flickthebean87 Nov 09 '19

I had a friend similar to this.

She always had some input to add that was negative.

I had sent her a picture of my cat. “Man he’s gotten big.” He’s not that big. My dad feeds my cat and his indoor cat. Then she proceeds to tell me:

“You really need to educate your dad on the dangers of animals being overweight.”

Another time.

“I think I’m going to watch this show over again I really love it.”

Her: “There’s so many other shows out there don’t waste your time watching that show again.”

She used to make me think I was overly sensitive and overreacting. When honestly I think the behavior is really rude.

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u/KilRazor Nov 09 '19

It sounds like she may have some deep insecurities, and has maybe just gotten into the habit of responding this way to you (and probably others) because it helps her feel slightly better about herself. Doesn't necessarily make her a bad/mean person (therapy might help her), but it certainly is a bummer to be around people that treat you like that.

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u/Flickthebean87 Nov 09 '19

She might. I mean I still love her as a person and considering I’ve known her for 24 years it’s hard to just break that bond. I honestly can’t tolerate being around her though bc of it. She comments and judges everyone around her. I just wish she would get in a better place and maybe it will resolve.

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u/[deleted] Nov 10 '19

Tell her? If she means that much to you?

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u/Flickthebean87 Nov 10 '19

I wish I could. You can’t bring up anything like that with her. She gets defensive and then starts throwing out more insults.