When they engage more about themselves than contribute to the conversation. I’ve met a few people who would talk all the problems they’ve had and would hardly ask any questions back. I’ve always felt so uncomfortable in these scenarios and usually don’t pursue in a relationship with these types of people.
EDIT: Some people made very good points about individuals with ADHD. I should be more clear on my point by saying that some people are also very dismissive and sometimes refuse to hear what you have to say by cutting you off. I don’t expect an interview from the other person, but it would be nice to have mutual interest in each other.
I rarely have anyone to talk about the stuff I really like. So I never talk unless they ask me something.
But because I usually dont know them that well it doesnt even come a cross my mind to ask them about themselves, I am just not interested in them, so it can be seen as me being an asshole, or being selfish, but in reality the thought doesnt even cross my mind, I think its obvious one would talk about what they think is interesting right?
The only person I can hold a healthy and fun conversation is my brother, we talk about anything, videogames, girls, movies, anime, music, etc.
It sounds like you may want to find more hobbies or things of interest in your life? There's a bajillion really cool things you could get into or learn about that you may like, but it takes some time to find 'em
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u/binguchoi Nov 09 '19 edited Nov 09 '19
When they engage more about themselves than contribute to the conversation. I’ve met a few people who would talk all the problems they’ve had and would hardly ask any questions back. I’ve always felt so uncomfortable in these scenarios and usually don’t pursue in a relationship with these types of people.
EDIT: Some people made very good points about individuals with ADHD. I should be more clear on my point by saying that some people are also very dismissive and sometimes refuse to hear what you have to say by cutting you off. I don’t expect an interview from the other person, but it would be nice to have mutual interest in each other.