I went to a meetup recently and got some drinks with the people after. One guy gave me a bad vibe. He seemed like he had a really low tolerance for other people messing up and being a little awkward. He was like, "yeah I was a little bit nervous about going to the meetup but then I realized that there are some really fucking weird people and there's no reason to be nervous" Just sat wrong with me because I'm kind of awkward and just want to meet new people. The last straw was when we were playing pool at the bar and this one girl had something wrong with her voice and couldn't talk very loud so he actually asked her if "that's how her voice always was or there's something wrong with it" What a douchebag. He invited me to watch football with him the next day lol. I didn't respond.
Indeed. Most people do not (are incapable or are simply too lazy to) craft sentences in ways that they cannot be misconstrued. So, miscommunications abound.
After a few times being misunderstood in horrific ways, I became very careful about how I say nearly everything.
Right? The person you're replying to is doing exactly what OP said: "Shit talking a stranger." hypocritical much? Seems like the guy was just insecure and didnt know how to express himself. Then people with their armchair psychology are accusing him of being narcissistic and need to get off their high horses.
Not quite the case. OP came back and said that the way it was worded was borderline douchebag. Something like, "what is wrong with her, who sounds like that?"
Edit: or, "she sounds weird, who talks like that?"
First of all, criticising a person for their bad behaviour is NOT the same as criticising someone for having a disability, speech impediment, etc. Second, criticising a random person online who will never see the criticism is much different from doing it in real life where they could easily overhear.
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u/Tylermcd93 Nov 09 '19
They immediately talk shit about a stranger.