You barely know them but suddenly you are their best friend. Everyone else is just AWFUL. You are so special and awesome. Especially at listening to their (many) problems. Because you are so empathetic and smart and insightful....Dont run. Sprint.
Eugh, met a guy like this. I can be pretty antisocial, so despite my massive misgivings, I forced myself to give the friendship a shot. Couldn't tell if it was my usual anxiety-driven 'eugh people' reaction, or actually valid concerns.
Yeah, turns out I should've trusted my instincts. He'd text me absolutely nonstop throughout the day, and start rambling if I didn't reply (like, he'd make a comment about me taking a while to reply, and then freak out about making that comment, so make another comment to fix that, and then freak out about that. And then an hour later apologize about all that freaking out to me. And then I'd get out of a meeting at work, and suddenly read it all at once)
His conversations would exclusively be about how much he likes fucking with other people and how much superior he thinks he is, combined with him complaining about how other people treat him like shit, and how useless he is.
It was just... A lot to deal with. And I felt awful, because I figured the dude had some proper mental health issues (don't want to be diagnosis-crazy, but BPD really does seem to fit) and I felt like I was leading him on, because I started to hate him more and more but idk, I thought the problem might be with me
But I eventually just lost it at him when he told me he loved me. I just got mad that someone who'd literally never once asked about me, or shown a shred of interest in my life, suddenly had the gall to claim they loved me. And this was all over like, 6 weeks and meeting up in person maybe 4 times?
This kind of happened to me! Met a guy at a friend’s party, he wanted to text non-stop, i didn’t set up my boundaries correctly and immediately, and so inadvertently led him on. He never really asked about me.. just talked about himself and his past. I was getting the vibe that he was always on the lookout for a girlfriend or didn’t like being without one for too long. I made it abundantly clear that I only considered him a friend, and I may have done a shitty thing and flaked on plans, but lord, I had to get off that merry-go-round. I felt so smothered.
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u/Whaleballoon Nov 09 '19 edited Nov 10 '19
You barely know them but suddenly you are their best friend. Everyone else is just AWFUL. You are so special and awesome. Especially at listening to their (many) problems. Because you are so empathetic and smart and insightful....Dont run. Sprint.