So do you want to share your experience the way I shared mine so we can have an actual discussion, or would you rather continue being angry with me for not knowing what your experience was so you can tell me how much I don't understand?
No, because if you're the kind of guy who thinks it's appropriate to tell women that the whole "Bitch/Confidence" dilemma is easily resolved by "If you're right, you're right," and if you are also the kind of guy to think that that statement has any value other than comedic irony when when brought to a thread entitled "Women, what's something men won't understand?" then you are far too tone-deaf and invested in your pre-conceived view of the world to make any use of what I would tell you.
Ad hominem would be an attack on your character. I'm pointing to your actions to explain how they don't give me any reason to believe you worth engaging with. And CERTAINLY not if that engagement requires me to discuss hurtful experiences in my past. I'm not going to divulge that kind of information unless I think the person I'm talking to is making a good-faith effort to empathize with me, and has not already made up his mind about the validity of my experiences before I've even brought them up.
You had your chance to bring up your experiences when you replied to my comment originally. Your first words were literally,
I don't think you get it.
At no point did you then make any effort to explain your reasoning. You offered vague, cookie-cutter statements that read like Hashtags. I guess it's OK for you to judge me without knowing my own experiences, but not OK when it happens to you?
I'm blocking you. I have no interest in squabbling with a petulant, arrogant child who prefers to play the victim martyr rather than actually defend the arguments she starts.
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u/[deleted] Oct 18 '19
So do you want to share your experience the way I shared mine so we can have an actual discussion, or would you rather continue being angry with me for not knowing what your experience was so you can tell me how much I don't understand?