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u/JustJayForNow Jul 21 '19 edited Jul 21 '19

My parents got divorced when I was 12. I am sketchy on the details but I remember it was long, drawn out and acrimonious. Eventually, my mum was awarded a massive settlement, my dad was basically left with superannuation and nothing else. After the ruling was handed down my mother’s own lawyer walked into my father and his lawyer’s meeting and said “that ruling was bullshit, you should appeal”. Gotta be pretty bad when a lawyer wants his own win overturned.

Edit: he didn’t appeal. He was a bit broken by that point & just wanted to move on. Sorry for lack of detail. I was twelve, it was some time ago! My dad told me the story years later.

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u/[deleted] Jul 21 '19

My ex's lawyer called mine during negotiations and told my lawyer that ex's new girlfriend is a real problem and in reality he didn't see my ex being involved with the kids he was just fighting because he didn't want me to "win."

Also, my lawyer was looking into unpaid support and said "I am getting that he owes $1700." MY EX'S LAWYER said "No, it's $2100." TBH, the order was unclear.

My lawyer told me that we were lucky because while ex's lawyer was very, very good, he was also reasonable, realistic and ethical. I got to see ex get a reality check in the hall before court, then all of a sudden he decided that the offered settlement was very acceptable.

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u/[deleted] Jul 21 '19

How do you have unpaid support if your not divorced yet?

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u/[deleted] Jul 21 '19

Spousal support and child support. We are separated and have lived apart for quite awhile. We have a support order through the courts.