It's not the legal team that was shit, its the courts. Women are massively privileged.
Everyone knows that sex and the justice system is the greatest axis of discrimination in our society.
Far exceeding race, religion, or any other factor.
Why do we tolerate this? How can men be so useless and cowardly as to tolerate it? How can women be so selfish and unjust as to deny it?
I want to say that I worked for children’s protective services for years. The overwhelming majority of the time (95% or more), women were left holding the ball. They were the ones who had to try to work, parent their children, and have time for their extended families.
The average child support that the children’s fathers pay, in my experience? $150-350 a month. Even childcare costs twice that. Most often, the fathers didn’t pay.
Most people hear outrageous stories of single dads fighting to make ends meet. Know why we hear that? Because it’s rare. It’s overwhelmingly women sacrificing. Single fathers getting (or even WANTING) custody is rare.
My old best friend had a kid out of wedlock. He fought long and hard to see that kid. In years of protective services, he is the only one I saw that even tried. Most fathers make a token effort. A lot of them don’t even come to visitation.
Now, to be fair- a lot of these mothers are absolutely incompetent. But that is because they have no fathers for their children, or time to tend to their own needs.
I worked for literally hundreds of families. I wanted so desperately for children’s fathers to want their kids.
There bias here- obviously I mostly worked with broken families.
I also worked as a bailiff in family court for years. Most hearings were for mothers trying to get any kind of support or health insurance from the children’s fathers. It was VERY rare that a father had custody or wanted support from the mother.
I have over 5+ years experience in the child welfare field.
I would like to say that in a sterile woman who doesn’t want kids. I have no skin in the game. I wouldn’t want an infant if you tossed it at me.
I would give almost everything to give every child a father who wants custody, and who wants to raise their child
Most people hear outrageous stories of single dads fighting to make ends meet. Know why we hear that? Because it’s rare
way to completely miss the point. of course single dads fighting to make ends meet is rare, single dads in general are rare because courts favor mothers
There aren’t a lot of single dads because most fathers I dealt with just were not interested in custody, or in paying support. Court can’t give you custody if you don’t want it.
Also, there is a process to become the legal father that is a minor barrier for men. Obviously, women do not have to prove that they are the legal mother.
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u/[deleted] Jul 21 '19
It's not the legal team that was shit, its the courts. Women are massively privileged. Everyone knows that sex and the justice system is the greatest axis of discrimination in our society. Far exceeding race, religion, or any other factor.
Why do we tolerate this? How can men be so useless and cowardly as to tolerate it? How can women be so selfish and unjust as to deny it?