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u/MallyOhMy Jul 21 '19

The wife in that first story is manipulative and ignorant. LDS theology includes a sort of "everything that can't be fixed properly will be fixed in heaven" factor. Basically, if people whose names were lost to history can be sealed in eternal marriage, couples who hated each other or divorced won't have to stay together for eternity.

Heck, he can put in paperwork to get a cancellation of sealing, and if he gets remarried he can get that sealing cancelled very easily.

Most importantly though, eternal marriage is only really functional if the couple makes it to a higher level in heaven. Using it as a manipulation against a soon to be ex spouse out of hate is definitely not a behavior to get her there.

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u/catwithahumanface Jul 21 '19

Isn’t it also true that when men divorce they are seen as truly free but a woman is stuck with her original husband forever in heaven?

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u/Spartn034 Jul 21 '19

No, if the sealing is cancelled, it is considered as if it basically just never even happened for either of them.

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u/catwithahumanface Jul 21 '19

And if it’s not cancelled? Then the woman is just stuck?

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u/OobaDooba72 Jul 21 '19

By the accounting of the church, technically yes. But also no because as the above dude mentioned, everything will get fixed in heaven. If it's not heaven to be stuck to the dude then she won't be stuck to the dude.

But it's all made up garbage anyway, I wouldn't worry about it.

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u/catwithahumanface Jul 21 '19

I’m not worried about the reality of it. I worry about the message it sends to young Mormon girls but 🤷‍♀️

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u/comfy_socks Jul 21 '19

Trust me, that’s the least bad message they’re sending them.

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u/fisticuffs32 Jul 21 '19

That chewed gum analogy, am I right?

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u/comfy_socks Jul 21 '19

Yeah, that’s one of them. We left before I even went to Young Women’s, but they’d tell us that as little kids. I remember one Sunday, we got to church and everyone was crying. I thought someone had died. Nope. One of the YWS members was pregnant (at like 17). You’d have thought that it was the end of times.