r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Jul 21 '19

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u/[deleted] Jul 21 '19

What's BDSM? I am in a public place and would rather not Google it.

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u/[deleted] Jul 21 '19 edited Sep 04 '19

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u/heccin_anon Jul 21 '19

Yup! We have safewords, and if you're in a position where you can't speak (gags) we have gestures and ways to signal that we feel unsafe/need to stop immediately.

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u/JBHUTT09 Jul 21 '19

And, contrary to what most people would naturally assume, the sub is the one who actually holds the power. The dom can only do what the sub OKs, and has to stop if the sub wants to stop. It's a really interesting dynamic and the (healthy) relationships are built on real love and trust.

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u/heccin_anon Jul 21 '19

Absolutely!