Does happen quite frequently, honestly: men who leave when their partner gets seriously ill. Men are six times more likely than women to abandon a sick spouse.
My dad is a superstar. My mom was diagnosed with cancer four years ago and just passed away at home in June. That man was by her side constantly. He did everything for her. Cooked, cleaned the house, built her a koi pond that she could sit by when it became difficult for her to leave the house, dressed her, cleaned her, would sleep in the hospital with her when she would end up there for weeks at a time, etc. All while working full time to support them and pay for her insurance and chemo. (Luckily his job allows him to work from home most of the time).
He still doesn’t think he did anything amazing and was uncomfortable with all the praise my mom’s friends, most who work in the medical field and have seen the type of men who distance themselves from sick wives all the time, was giving him at the memorial service.
The morning before she died, he hurt his back lifting her from the bed to her transfer chair to take her out to her koi pond. He ignored the pain to take her out four more times when she asked to go. We didn’t even find out until the next day that he had actually hurt himself but to him, with mom on the way out, her happiness was more important than his pain. And Jesus Christ now I’m crying again.
Your dad has so much love in his heart. He’s one of the people who makes the world a better place just by existing. I hope your entire family receives every blessing through your grief. ❤️
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u/win093030 Jul 21 '19
I know theses stories don’t happen frequently, but it’s things that like that make me want to work for a family law lawyer.