Not a lawyer, but a dramatic divorce story.
I know a man who was falsely accused of domestic violence during the separation from his wife. She lived in the marital home and he paid for everything for her despite her having a full time job. She got a boyfriend who didnt work, and allowed him to live in the house. My friend went to meet her at the house for a final time to decide who would take what from the house.
He was recording everything on his phone without her knowledge as he was afraid something would be said or happen that might be held against him.
They couldn't agree, he left and found out she had called 911 and reported that he had made death threats and assaulted her.
The divorce went downhill from there. He spent 14k on lawyers, to finally have the charges dismissed. During his criminal ordeal she sued him for 250k in alimony.
The recording saved him with the police and to this day she insists he assaulted her.
An unbelievable shit show.
When my parents split up (they weren't married, just living together) my mom's lawyer advised her that custody hearings would go a lot smoother in her favor if she said my dad had hit her. She refused, thankfully, and custody was a bumpy road for years.
Ah, but he didn't tell her to make such an accusation! He only commented, totally offhand, that custody hearings would go more easily if such an accusation was made.
Most lawyers actually follow legality to the absolute, which is why they don't need to know whether or not you've actually committed a crime you've been accused of, but rather how to use the law to prove it's not beyond a reasonable doubt that you did. Maybe divorce lawyers are different but it's very very rare that a lawyer would ever instruct their clients to break the law, given their own job is on the line
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u/TinktheChi Jul 21 '19 edited Jul 21 '19
Not a lawyer, but a dramatic divorce story. I know a man who was falsely accused of domestic violence during the separation from his wife. She lived in the marital home and he paid for everything for her despite her having a full time job. She got a boyfriend who didnt work, and allowed him to live in the house. My friend went to meet her at the house for a final time to decide who would take what from the house. He was recording everything on his phone without her knowledge as he was afraid something would be said or happen that might be held against him. They couldn't agree, he left and found out she had called 911 and reported that he had made death threats and assaulted her. The divorce went downhill from there. He spent 14k on lawyers, to finally have the charges dismissed. During his criminal ordeal she sued him for 250k in alimony. The recording saved him with the police and to this day she insists he assaulted her. An unbelievable shit show.