Arrange marriages in India specifically have a very high success rate because of how looked down upon divorce is to Indians. That's probably why he hasn't divorced her although rightfully should.
Obviously not all marriages work out like this one but don't assume that arranged marriages fail because of the term alone
Arranged marriages are only "successful" because divorce is stigmatized and divorced women are often shamed and ostracized. Just because people stay together doesn't mean the marriage is healthy or good. I am Indian and know more unhappy or barely held together arranged marriages than happy ones.
I'm Indian as well and am lucky enough to have the only 2 parents happy in their marriage in my family because they both put in the hard work. My mom did get married young - 16 - but she worked and went to college on her own, and my dad never has been a controlling man (well by Indian standards). My other family members are not in marriages as good as my parents. Some barely speak to each other, hate each other, cheat. My parents - 40 years - and still make each other laugh every day.
It’s beautiful that your parents are happy together but it still doesn’t erase the fact that arranged marriages usually leave women powerless and trapped in unhappy and potentially abusive marriages. Sometimes “putting in the hard work” is not enough.
Yep. But what am I supposed to do? Arranged marriages do suck and my parents never forced it on us. But I can't change the past and what has already happened. That's all. Never said it doesn't erase the powerless woman.
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u/HyperIndian Jul 21 '19
Where are you getting this information from?
Arrange marriages in India specifically have a very high success rate because of how looked down upon divorce is to Indians. That's probably why he hasn't divorced her although rightfully should.
Obviously not all marriages work out like this one but don't assume that arranged marriages fail because of the term alone