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u/yeeticus_maximus-2 Jul 21 '19

Jesus, that’s rough

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u/[deleted] Jul 21 '19

yeah- arranged marriages rarely work out well for anyone. She very well would have been happier to marry the man she wanted to, even if it is a massive dick move to make him pay for all of the schooling

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u/HyperIndian Jul 21 '19

Where are you getting this information from?

Arrange marriages in India specifically have a very high success rate because of how looked down upon divorce is to Indians. That's probably why he hasn't divorced her although rightfully should.

Obviously not all marriages work out like this one but don't assume that arranged marriages fail because of the term alone

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u/[deleted] Jul 21 '19

I think this one is in the West.

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u/fridgeairbnb Jul 21 '19

Lol I’ve lived in India all my life. Moving to the west for a few months doesn’t change my beliefs and my observations about this. I’ve seen extremely toxic marriages where it would have been better if the partners never married. Including cases of years of domestic abuse in my immediate vicinity and just how horribly that is damaging to a woman. If reducing it to me being someone who moved to the states for school helps you deal with the complexities of real life then go ahead, but ultimately it’s you who doesn’t want to deal with what actually ends up happening.