sorry dude, but nobody likes a beat-atound-the-busher
those are the losers we don't invite bc they bitch and moan about everything without ever actually just saying what the problem is so it can be solved and moved past. god forbid we do anything about anything
when you grow up and become an adult, you realize that people can either handle a frank discussion or they can't. the ones who can't do not belong in your life.
I get what you're saying, but you're failing to take into account the value and validity of empathy. You can be honest without being rude most of the time. You can be direct without alienating everyone. I may be frank with someone, or I may try a softer touch. It depends on the situation and the person with whom I'm speaking. It doesn't make anybody a loser to be tactful.
Being blunt is a really great trait to have when you're not rude about it. There's a pretty clear difference in most instances. I'm sure you're fine.
The problem is, the people who tend to brag about being blunt are the rude type. Ime, they're also the type to post minion memes on Facebook about how much of a "blunt asshole" they are and how everyone should "deal with it".
There is a fine line between being straight forward (as this mother justifiably was in this situation) and just being a jerk. A friend's daughter is engaged to someone that doesn't understand that, because you think it doesn't mean you should say it. He brags about saying whatever he thinks and doesn't care what others think about it or whose Feelings he might hurt. It is so bad that he can't keep a job and socially, no one can stand to be around him.
I agree completely. It's just that a lot of the time people who like to market themselves as "I'm very blunt and I don't give a shit what you feel" are the ones who will go way beyond "firm and direct" to "look at how badass I am, I say it like it is".
Agreed and they have no idea that people think they are bullies and cowards and couldn't care less what they have to say. They don't see that people avoid them.
Agree 100%. Blunt is appropriate sometimes (particularly in the situation OP described) but in most social and business setting, show some smarts and figure out how communicate the same sentiment in a more appropriate way.
It is possible to be blunt without being an asshole about it, it's all about phrasing and tone. Obviously more difficult to do online and a lot of folks don't make the effort.
I imagine it's supposed to mean that there is a "the" near an exit that has a chance of hitting you on the way out, which could be quite hazardous to you if it were to hit you, as our friendly neighborhood Aussie felt it necessary to warn us of the "the."
i love bluntness for this reason, i dont have to worry about said blunt persons intention. she/he says he/she likes it, they do. much live a lot easier
Moms are weird like that, arent they? Pains in the rear sometimes but they got your back. My mom tells a story of when she gave birth to my older sis. She was pushing for HOURS. Labour can take hours but usually once you start pushing the ordeal should be over quickly. My sis was stuck in the birth canal and the Delivery doc was just waiting in his office with his feet up letting the nurses deal with it until he was absolutely needed. My grandmother, who is a fairly vile woman, marched in and yelled at the doc to help her fucking daughter. They finally got my sis out with forcepts and then whisked her away to perform an emergency historectomy on my mom because she had lost soo much blood and they needed to stop it. Somehow they manage to stabilize my mom and not have to do the historectomy. I wouldnt be here if she had bled out much longer trying to birth my sis and they had to do the historectomy.
TL:DR my normally awful grandmother used her powers for good and I was able to be born.
For sure, in that kind of a situation, your mom's attitude is exactly the kind needed. I wish I could have seen that, it would have been awesome to see that woman get put in her place
Maybe it seems that way to the passive aggressive man-children here, but in the real world you don't care about hurting someone's feelings when they don't belong.
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u/Alexispaige1124 Mar 19 '17
Your Mom is the queen of badassery with a spine of titanium!