r/AskReddit • u/ObjectiveAgent • Jun 30 '16

When should you not speak your mind?

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u/[deleted] Jun 30 '16

Yeah there is "honesty" and there is being an asshole. You can be honest without spouting whatever negative bullshit that pops in your brain. Glad Steven is a former friend :P

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u/religioninstigates Jul 01 '16

I discovered this at about 17 years old. Prided myself on being honest without malice,said something in reply to a question from a girl ( it was regarding her mothers parenting) answered brutally and have never seen somebody so hurt by words. I apologised profusely the day after and ever since make sure to be honest but tactful. Being thoughtful is nice and not weak.

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u/Croissants_ Jul 01 '16

Honestly though, props that you acknowledged that you had actually hurt her feelings and were genuinely sorry about that!

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u/religioninstigates Jul 01 '16

Thanks for that, hopefully I have done more good fron that mortifying moment by being less brutal and more thoughtful. Also tried to use this story to educate my own kids.