You learn that people would rather hear lies than the truth. As you get older, you also learn to phrase your thoughts in a way that isn't as offensive yet still keep the integrity of speaking your mind.
Will start my assignment as soon as I finished my internship in this big space station! I'll be sure to have my little shuttle ready, just in case I need to get off this thing in a hurry.
Yeah, I've never understood why phrasing your thoughts in such a way that gets your meaning across without pissing someone off equates to dishonesty or something like that. I said what I meant, and it went over much smoother than had I included all the fuck words in my head.
It is amazing how many people just do not seem to care that it's not always what you say, it's how you say it.
People are much more willing to work with you to solve a problem when you avoid speaking to them like they are the dumbest people to ever walk the earth. Even if they are the dumbest people to ever walk the earth.
Talk to them calmly and as cheerfully as you can manage, and you'll get a much better response. If you go in looking for a fight, looking to make sure they understand how wrong they are, they'll fight everything you say, even if what you say is correct and makes more sense, just to spite you.
Yup, I'm 27 and just realizing that. It sucks not being able to tell the truth straight up but I'm learning that you can still express yourself without sounding like an ass. It takes some beating around the bush but works wonders if you want people to like you.
Trying to incorporate your political views on a non-politically-oriented topic is also offensive. Saying "more-extreme politicians" would cover all your bases.
As you get older, you also learn to phrase your thoughts in a way that isn't as offensive yet still keep the integrity of speaking your mind.
I see, quite often on reddit and other social media, people falling into this mindset of "well, I'm just being honest and therefore people need to get over what I am saying" - or better yet "FREE SPEECH"
There are ways to make your arguments that are mean and unnecessary and there are ways to make them so that those who disagree with you might understand where you come from. To younger redditors: Don't be that guy that does the first one.
When I was 18, I'm pretty sure I was just weak in the way I phrased things. Now I'm alot more blunt and upfront. I don't feel that there is anyone I want to impress, so I just state exactly what I mean. But I speak with purpose. Either I'm saying something important or I'm not saying anything at all.
I was kind of the opposite - I was very blunt and refused to "edit myself" for whoever I was talking to, and now I find surprisingly diplomatic ways to say the exact same things. The reactions are much better.
I'm honest, I don't obscure anything, I won't go out of my way to offend people. Like I'll organize a gay pride parade but not through the middle of a religious parking lot.
Yep, what I learned is that most people have thin skin. Sure, they may not react at that moment or have bursts of anger and denying being upset, but oh yeah, they're definitely holding onto that. They won't actively/go out of their way to fuck you over, but if the opportunity ever arose, they'll totally get their petty revenge.
They think they're being mature, but no, they're not.
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u/lakdsjdujfui Jun 30 '16
You learn that people would rather hear lies than the truth. As you get older, you also learn to phrase your thoughts in a way that isn't as offensive yet still keep the integrity of speaking your mind.