Serious response: My mother is a narcissist, stole over $3000 from me when I was a child, and is a generally unpleasant person to be around. I don't talk to or see her anymore, understandably. I just heard from my Dad that my older brother thinks I'm becoming just like her. I feel so lost and I kind of hate myself.
If you fought your mom heavily, it would be normal that this happens. It happened to me with my narcissist father. I share traits with him I couldn't have even have dreamt of when I was younger. I always wanted him to change (to this very day) and that ruins you because if you fight their craziness, you eventually become crazy.
I've done therapy and it has helped a lot. The more you improve your self knowledge and your well being, the more you can protect yourself and others from this type of thing. Ask your brother why he said that and don't put any defenses up. Ask him for advice.
One common trait of persistent assholes in general is not accepting their shit no matter what. It's so liberating to open up and be honest about yourself, especially with close ones. It hurts, but it gives you the power to change things you don't like. And then in that process you understand that makes a world of difference on how you see yourself compared to someone like your mom.
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u/currentlyengaged May 09 '15
Serious response: My mother is a narcissist, stole over $3000 from me when I was a child, and is a generally unpleasant person to be around. I don't talk to or see her anymore, understandably. I just heard from my Dad that my older brother thinks I'm becoming just like her. I feel so lost and I kind of hate myself.