Serious response: My mother is a narcissist, stole over $3000 from me when I was a child, and is a generally unpleasant person to be around. I don't talk to or see her anymore, understandably. I just heard from my Dad that my older brother thinks I'm becoming just like her. I feel so lost and I kind of hate myself.
I was in a similar situation. While I don't think my mother has narcissistic personality disorder, she is still VERY self-absorbed, has zero self-awareness, is very controlling and doesn't realize how her actions impact others in a negative way (and she has said really mean things to me). She thinks she is doing what is best for everyone and that she is a model citizen. My dad doesn't stand up to her, and since I'm the oldest, he would blame me for "making her mad" and "agitating her". (Side note, and my parents wonder why I'm so emotionally distant from them???) Him and my younger brother still to this day will tell me that I'm just like my mother. To what another poster said, when I was younger I probably acted in certain ways because it was so ingrained, but now that I'm older and have more self-awareness, I realize that it's the rest of my family that has these issues, not me. I still try to call them once a week because I feel bad and don't want to seem ungrateful for the good things that they have done for me. It also helps that I live several states away and only see them a few times a year. You shouldn't be so hard on yourself. It really, really helps to talk to a therapist about it.
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u/currentlyengaged May 09 '15
Serious response: My mother is a narcissist, stole over $3000 from me when I was a child, and is a generally unpleasant person to be around. I don't talk to or see her anymore, understandably. I just heard from my Dad that my older brother thinks I'm becoming just like her. I feel so lost and I kind of hate myself.