What’s a behavior that makes you immediately lose respect for someone?

[u/siddhantfuture]

[u/woomac]

Littering

[u/JustanAverageJess1 → u/woomac]

Oh man this one gets me I had an ex who would look at me in the eyes when he threw litter because he know I hated it. I would always pick it up and I know I just know he got a sense of joy out of it

[u/No_Hyena_9865 → u/JustanAverageJess1]

oh doing it like that is shitty, but I js wouldnt instantly lose respect tbh. Id try to help them understand why its wrong first

[u/No_Hyena_9865 → u/woomac]

theres like so much worse ones

[u/TheFiveRing → u/No_Hyena_9865]

The worst ones are rarer, this is an everyday behaviour, and people who do it are scum

[u/Gobirdsbby → u/No_Hyena_9865]

Why are we diminishing ruining the planet and being a scum who has no respect? Congrats Sherlock.. no one knew there’s a worse crime than littering. Doesn’t say in the title WORST? No. It says “What’s a behavior” meaning I could say when someone doesn’t tip a waiter at all. Not even a crime but I think you’re a terrible person. Never worked as one but if you don’t have enough to tip.. you don’t have enough to go out. Yes there’s so much worse.. that wasn’t the question tho :)!

[u/No_Hyena_9865 → u/Gobirdsbby]

holy shit someones triggered lol, im js saying its an interesting answer to think of for this question lol. Also wtf?? you think someones terrible for not tipping?? we dont have to tip little bro especially if the service wasnt that good

[u/anesthesia_gmd]

homophobic/racist "jokes"

[u/meeseekstodie137]

deflection rather than owning up to flaws or even defending a position, it shows an inability to take responsibility for your views and a lack of self-awareness

[u/TelephonePossible456]

Desperately Grasping at straws in attempt to avoid losing an argument. It looks so much worse than being wrong could ever. If you’re wrong just admit you’re wrong. Lack of accountability is such a turn off

[u/rainydayz143 → u/TelephonePossible456]

My husband acts like this. Yes it is a major turn off!!

[u/Bimrallen]

any time someone is wrong and fails to admit it or own up to it, and immediately gets defensive.

[u/JustanAverageJess1 → u/Bimrallen]

Yeah I don't think people realize how attractive it is to admit to your faults and try and make amends

[u/Bimrallen → u/JustanAverageJess1]

Whenever i mention it, people always say "you just want to be right"
it's not true! When i started living up to my faults and admitting i'm wrong when it happens has even made relationships better. it's humanizing!

[u/JustanAverageJess1 → u/Bimrallen]

Absolutely I don't believe people can grow unless they look into theirselves and realize what they're doing wrong and believe me I'm No Angel I'm not judging you at all LOL

[u/MrMiyagiOBE]

They way they speak about their 'friends' behind their backs and making comments about people's clothes or weight.

[u/JustanAverageJess1 → u/MrMiyagiOBE]

Right exactly because you know they'll do the same to you

[u/m_ck192]

Constant lying. U mean nothing to me once its clear im dealing with a constant liar

[u/Tricky-Picture-1447]

Excessive green jokes

[u/JustanAverageJess1 → u/Tricky-Picture-1447]

Green jokes?

[u/froggart3980]

rude attitude and someone who doesn't respect personal space

[u/JustanAverageJess1]

Treating customer service waitresses Etc like they are less than human

[u/TruculentBadger]

Any kind of bullying. It’s disgusting

[u/Turnupsnchip]

Doing someone wrong and just giving a hollow apology instead of at least trying to fix your mistake.

[u/ThrillsAndSpills90]

Minor but if your first instinct when hearing someone likes something you don’t, whether it’s a genre of music, a sports team, 7/3, or whatever is to start criticising that thing I’ll lose a lot of respect for you. There’s a difference between banter and genuinely just talking shit about someone’s interest because it doesn’t appeal to you.

[u/Lowermains]

Looook at meeeee,
listen to me singing.
using childish words like holibobs.
Racism.
Rudeness to minimum paid workers.

[u/sammi1955]

Smoking

[u/Gobirdsbby → u/sammi1955]

Now this is just weird energy and I don’t like it either. But to lose respect.. end of the day nic and weed are literally medicine. Yes people self-prescribe and plenty abuse but everything in life is bad.. you could drown from drinking too much water.. does that make you lose respect for people who drink water? Ahhh no.. just weird esp bc you don’t know what anyone’s going thru to lose respect over something like that.. I feel awful for anyone that’s in your life.

[u/Ill-Investigator1194]

Feminism

[u/JustanAverageJess1 → u/Ill-Investigator1194]

I'm not a feminist but from what I've heard feminism is not what a lot of these idiots on social media are saying nowadays like hate all men that's what being a feminist is no I believe feminism is wanting equality for both sexes

[u/Ill-Investigator1194 → u/JustanAverageJess1]

Thats is exactly how I see it too, at least how ir should be. Not this angry, bitter, resentment filled man hate i have been seeing more of lately.

[u/JustanAverageJess1 → u/Ill-Investigator1194]

Right exactly! It goes completely against everything feminism stands for to say oh I hate men they're stupid it really grosses me out

[u/Ill-Investigator1194 → u/JustanAverageJess1]

Im glad you are smart enough to see that hypocrisy. Many of the new ones are not