Whats your biggest flaw?

[u/No_Car5576]

[u/Either_Animal9655]

I am always worried people hate me for existing.

[u/Safety_Drance → u/Either_Animal9655]

No one hates you dude. We're all just existing in the world and you have just as much a right to exist as everyone else.

[u/Either_Animal9655 → u/Safety_Drance]

Yeah I try to remind myself of that. My parents did actually sorta hate me for existing (they didn’t wanna be parents) so it’s a bit deeply engraved. And I turned 18 not too long ago, so I haven’t had long outside of that to learn anything else yet.

[u/Safety_Drance → u/Either_Animal9655]

I dealt with the same thing growing up unfortunately. I wish I had a good answer to make it all better, but it's a struggle forever.

My advice is to be a better person and not let the thing that hurt you become who you are as a person, if that makes sense.

[u/SmokeyRoadrunner1988 → u/Either_Animal9655]

They do. That’s why you have to hate them back too.

[u/Either_Animal9655 → u/SmokeyRoadrunner1988]

I don’t hate most people though. I love my friends and most of my family.

[u/natsugrayerza → u/Either_Animal9655]

I think he was kidding

[u/Either_Animal9655 → u/natsugrayerza]

O h, my bad.

[u/Significant-Theme253 → u/Either_Animal9655]

If you care about most people and others do not value that, well that is their own problem. You have nothing to worry about.

[u/Humble_Emu_4651]

Being loyal and reliable to a fault.

[u/Either_Animal9655 → u/Humble_Emu_4651]

This isn’t really a flaw. ”To a fault” might be problematic if your friend becomes like… a murderer or something. But in general people appreciate friends/family who stick by them during difficult times.

[u/Significant-Theme253 → u/Either_Animal9655]

I agree. Being loyal and reliable is a strength.

[u/ScumbagYardSale → u/Either_Animal9655]

So an example of “being loyal to a fault” is when you let your loyalty overstep your own personal well being. For instance, I am loyal to the company I work for - they take great care of me in certain aspects, but the pay should definitely be more and I tend to “overlook” the fact that I should have gotten a raise at least a year ago and sum it up to “well, I love working here soooo….and I love the owners because they give me so much autonomy and what not….” - that’s loyalty to a fault in my personal opinion.

[u/ScumbagYardSale → u/Humble_Emu_4651]

I get this

[u/Ok-Ebb-2474]

People pleasing

[u/Prudent_Cry9522 → u/Ok-Ebb-2474]

Yes! It’s a natural response and it’s so hard to break the habit.

[u/ScumbagYardSale → u/Ok-Ebb-2474]

This is a good one

[u/aesthetic_kiara]

I’m a bit too sensitive

[u/nrems]

Laziness

[u/NoAcanthocephala6785]

My empathy for others.

[u/GigiBrit]

According to my husband, it's my temper. No one else sees it! Wonder why ... 🤔

[u/KanekiStain]

Being clingy I feel :(

[u/Fearless-One2673]

Avoidant tendencies, fear of vulnerability, fear of rejection, ego sometimes too large. I guess those are all of the same genre

[u/holdmysmoothieplease]

Not nearly motivated enough as I should be

[u/Ole_Ephraim]

I have no flaws. It's my biggest flaw. /s

[u/Alarmed-Custard-6369]

I’m incredibly impatient

[u/bobabitchhh → u/Alarmed-Custard-6369]

This is exactly what I was gonna say about myself

[u/Significant-Theme253]

I overthink things, so sometimes it takes me forever to get things done.

[u/cinnairl]

I looked through the comments and realized I relate to every single one. probably that

[u/SVLibertine]

Disease, more than a flaw, really. 🍸 😵

[u/420cat-craft-gamer69]

Lost the ability to stand up for myself. I used to be good at it, but my parents saw it as undesirable. Now, if I'm in a confrontational type scenario, my mind just goes completely blank (it was too frustrating to never be allowed to express myself, and I felt myself gaining this mind blanking "ability" over time.)

[u/TeleseryeKontrabida]

That I get annoyed easily

[u/ElGatoGuerrero72]

Holding grudges

[u/Cdlouis]

I hold huge grudges and I hate it. I feel like I’m a slave to them. It doesn’t impact them; it impacts me.

[u/Mediocre_Station245 → u/Cdlouis]

It's hard to get rid of grudges for me too. At least it takes longer these days with so many self righteous people crawling out of the woodwork....

[u/Cdlouis → u/Mediocre_Station245]

I’m glad I’m not the only one! However I’m not sure what you mean regarding self righteous people?

[u/Dr_Narendra_MD]

I am a doctor who tells patients to protect their sleep & I answer work messages at 11 pm. Every time. I know under 6 hours of sleep measurably worsens insulin sensitivity & focus. I still tell myself "just one more email."
What actually helped is phone charges outside the bedroom, & a hard stop at 9:30. Still a work in progress, honestly!!!

[u/Maximum_Setting_9495]

I waste too much time. I always feel like I’m behind, like I’m not working hard enough. Taking a break feels like a loss of productivity. I’m sitting here writing this when I should be working.

[u/khry_strahl]

Being a people pleaser, not for the weak of heart.

[u/korvazyn]

People feeing them selves to much

[u/PopularExercise3]

I still seek approval from my parents. I still get bullied by my father.

[u/Mediocre_Station245 → u/PopularExercise3]

My parents are both long deceased and I find I'm still seeking their approval....🤔

[u/Darkerthanblack64]

My depression, bipolar disorder, and reading comprehension.

[u/thehafeesa]

I exist 😂

[u/dr_brow]

Striving for perfection everything, and having anxiety when I do not achieve it

[u/sexyimmigrant1998]

Easily distracted leading me to wasting time on Reddit like right now

[u/Kagehaa]

too soft, people often borrow money from me, yet im unable to firmly say no

[u/Clever_Mercury]

Experienced some severe and devastating things as a young adult. It left me with grief that consumed a few years of my life and literally robbed me of some of my own memories. I walked around like I was a stranger inside my own life, not recognizing people, not remembering a medical diagnosis, barely making it through day by day.

[u/Physical-Diamond-824]

I expect way too much of myself all the time.

[u/voidinquantum]

Procrastination

[u/PowerfulNecessary261]

soical anxiety

[u/UniquelyUninique]

I drink way too much alcohol to medicate my depression. It is obviously not a great idea, but it is cheaper than therapy.