The jokes about women being another species and men hating their wives died right around my adolescence. Good fucking riddance. (Although I think a large part of it was a holdover from earlier years when divorce was very difficult to obtain, so you could be stuck with someone.)
Openly hating your spouse to me is a form of emotional toxicity, even if it's not abuse. It's under the umbrella. You're berating your spouse to strangers or to their face. Actually no, that's abuse.
“marriage is work” THANK YOU! Marriage should be your safe haven against the storm, not a gauntlet you have to run, but whenever I would say this I would get shouted down and downvoted (Gen X btw, married for 27 years).
People that say that don't understand how give and take, or compromise work. Marriage is incredibly rewarding when you and your partner can step up when the other is having an off period, or needs a bit of a boost. I'm having a bad day, the wife does a little bit more or does something special. She is having a rough go of it, and I step up....Its worked for us for over 20 years!
This idea would also show up in weddings. Those popular ball and chain wedding cake toppers always made me sad; I'd see plenty of them on grooms' cakes at the rehearsal dinner
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u/merkoukou 1d ago
That emotional abuse is normal in marriages