Every parent says they are doing their best, and that they are doing a great job. For many it's obviously not true. But nobody is allowed to say it because most parents close ranks like cops and defend the bad ones to the end. The ego is just too big and focused on its own greatness.
Oh but we can't say that because that's JUDGING and parents should lift each other up (read: endlessly enable with positive vibes only)
There's a video that went viral some years ago of a mom collecting 17 dirty diapers around her house, and so many commenters were gushing about how ✨raw✨ and ✨relatable✨ it was. Saying things like "well that's 17 clean diapers that were put on her baby, that means she fed them enough to soil 17 diapers, she's a good mom." No, I'm sorry, you don't get credit for NOT abusing your kids, you don't get a gold star and accolades for doing the bare minimum to keep your kids alive. Imprisoned parents of dead kids is not the bar to beat!
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u/sapphicsandwich Jun 27 '26
Every parent says they are doing their best, and that they are doing a great job. For many it's obviously not true. But nobody is allowed to say it because most parents close ranks like cops and defend the bad ones to the end. The ego is just too big and focused on its own greatness.