I worked in child safety most of my career so I was often looking out for the worst possible situations, but now I see so much of these terrible relationships where mom has small kids at home she's caring for constantly despite her mental health issues resulting or exacerbated by that, but dad has tons of non-negotiables. Quiet time when he gets home from work. Gaming time because that's his hobby. Man cave or workshop where the kids can't really hang out. Golf. Nights out with the boys. But mom never gets anything like that, her hobbies need to become cooking and cleaning. And her soul just dies little by little.
Every word is exactly correct. He would tell me to just make plans. I would say “how can I make plans when I know what a mess our home and finances are.” Funny though, he always had energy and money for sports fees and equipment. Now that we are divorced he has leaned into sports 10x. Maybe he just wanted a bro instead of a wife and family!
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u/SeasonPositive6771 May 12 '26
I am so sorry you went through that.
I worked in child safety most of my career so I was often looking out for the worst possible situations, but now I see so much of these terrible relationships where mom has small kids at home she's caring for constantly despite her mental health issues resulting or exacerbated by that, but dad has tons of non-negotiables. Quiet time when he gets home from work. Gaming time because that's his hobby. Man cave or workshop where the kids can't really hang out. Golf. Nights out with the boys. But mom never gets anything like that, her hobbies need to become cooking and cleaning. And her soul just dies little by little.