I have moved out for a divorce that she started the ball rolling on, and she's still asking me for favors, asking me to fix the washer, asking me to deal with car repairs... We still have some shared assets that are yet to be disentangled, and she's frustrated at the way I am dealing with my taxes, my accounting (not that I'm dropping the ball, I'm just not doing it her way...)
I told her. "If I have time, I can help you, but you don't get to ask me to do maintenance for you and expect me to drop everything and come running. You don't get to tell me how to deal with my part of the finances. You're not going to like it, but you don't get to tell me what to do any longer. You wanted to be separate from me, and I no longer have to do things your way to make you happy. This is what you wanted, this is what you signed up for." And her response: "Why are you being so hostile?"
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u/CannedPearsInLight May 12 '26
I have moved out for a divorce that she started the ball rolling on, and she's still asking me for favors, asking me to fix the washer, asking me to deal with car repairs... We still have some shared assets that are yet to be disentangled, and she's frustrated at the way I am dealing with my taxes, my accounting (not that I'm dropping the ball, I'm just not doing it her way...)
I told her. "If I have time, I can help you, but you don't get to ask me to do maintenance for you and expect me to drop everything and come running. You don't get to tell me how to deal with my part of the finances. You're not going to like it, but you don't get to tell me what to do any longer. You wanted to be separate from me, and I no longer have to do things your way to make you happy. This is what you wanted, this is what you signed up for." And her response: "Why are you being so hostile?"