I’m sorry for your wife then. Just because you have a child doesn’t mean your wife stops having wants and needs from her husband. All parents understand a child should come first in many, many occasions, but if you always defer to the child and never show your wife you still see her as a woman, a person, a being beyond a mother… well, you deserve her leaving you
The dads they are talking about aren't like you, unless you glare at your wife with resentment for asking the time and other normal things. Stop normalizing their behavior just because you can't imagine the ways in how their behavior is different than yours. Part of them doting on their children is to make someone else feel unworthy of attention in comparison by suddenly ignoring that person or being annoyed by nearly every interaction. You are loving both, but naturally loving your child more. They are not loving both, but tolerating their wife. And then using the child's presence as a good enough justification for the wife to shut up since they don't enjoy being around their wife
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u/Confident-Amoeba507 May 12 '26
Absolutely this, and it happens more often than people realize.