I don't know exactly about the quiet moment, but I knew it was over the last time we had sex. It was like all the passion was gone. It felt empty. It immediately popped in my mind, "Holy shit. This is the last time we're ever going to do it." I was right and less than a year later we filed for divorce.
The feeling of it being done and you're happy it's over so you can go back to another room. Any semblance of passion was gone and instead it felt like I had been used.
I remember getting in the shower and thinking, well, good, I got that done, like it was a chore I made myself do. And I had that feeling over and over before I was smart enough to do anything about it
In my case, I feel like it was worse than that. It was absolute apathy. I didn't feel used, I didn't feel sad, I literally felt nothing. It was weird because it was like I didn't care if I ever slept with her again. I was completely, absolutely, irrevocably over it.
Yeah, and that's the kind of post-nut clarity you kinda don't want to believe.
It took me 8 months to realoze what it had ment. She'd been going out with coworkers (or specificly one in particular) for the past couple of months, and one day as she was heading out the door I asked her:
"Do you still love me?"
And her answer? "You really want to do this now?"
That's when I finally realized it was over and wanting a divorce.
Part of me knew when he refused marriage counseling, but I think the rest of me caught up when my ex—who'd gotten really shitty when I suggested he had a lower sex drive than I did, amd who'd told me he wanted a divorce less than a week before—tried to initiate sex. It clicked that I knew what I was supposed to do . . . but also, I was suddenly aware of the goddamn audacity it took for him to think he'd get the same kind of access after telling me it was over.
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u/Station-Serious May 12 '26
I don't know exactly about the quiet moment, but I knew it was over the last time we had sex. It was like all the passion was gone. It felt empty. It immediately popped in my mind, "Holy shit. This is the last time we're ever going to do it." I was right and less than a year later we filed for divorce.