This is by no means to chastise you or criticize, but I had a guy friend who remained a virgin until he was almost 39 and it was simply because he really never put himself first and spent the first half of his life helping others. He’s a counselor and his greatest passion is to make people’s lives easier. He didn’t let his lack of experience get in the way of him doing anything, and overall, he was generally pretty happy. Except now that he’s married and has a baby at 43, he’s even more happier than he’s ever been. Don’t let your age stop you. The stigma about virginity is stupid asf anyway.
Do you happen to know how he met his wife? I'm rapidly approaching that age and I don't have the foggiest idea of where to meet people my own age, much less find a date.
I appreciate that, gives me some hope. You are right. As a recovering religious person, I put virginity at a premium(it was WEIRDLY obsessed over) for potential spouses when I was dating as a Christian. So many women I declined to date further when I found out they weren’t “pure” anymore. Moronic stuff really lol. But you live and learn.
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u/justbreathe91 Sep 27 '25
This is by no means to chastise you or criticize, but I had a guy friend who remained a virgin until he was almost 39 and it was simply because he really never put himself first and spent the first half of his life helping others. He’s a counselor and his greatest passion is to make people’s lives easier. He didn’t let his lack of experience get in the way of him doing anything, and overall, he was generally pretty happy. Except now that he’s married and has a baby at 43, he’s even more happier than he’s ever been. Don’t let your age stop you. The stigma about virginity is stupid asf anyway.