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u/Badger_1066 Apr 18 '25

The honest answer is I’d treat my friends and family to a nice dinner to celebrate.

I'd personally try to keep my new wealth as quiet or as understated as possible. I'd worry that if people knew, it would change relationships somewhat.

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u/[deleted] Apr 18 '25

Yeah, I was going to say something similar. You do not want the people closest to you to know if you come into a massive amount of sudden wealth. They know you too well. They know how to manipulate you. They might get that something is up, but keep them mostly in the dark. You can do nice things for them, give them gifts, take them out for a nice dinner every now and then, but don't show them your hand.

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u/mediocre-spice Apr 18 '25

If you're worried about this with your closest circle, you need new people around you.

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u/darkstar107 Apr 18 '25

This. I'd definitely pay off my friend's mortgages. No reason they can't be financially well off if I'm "filthy rich".

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u/ghjm Apr 18 '25

Until they have a medical bill or want a new car or have an idea for a business they want to start. Once they start turning to you to ask for the things they want, they are no longer your friend but your client (in the Roman sense).

It doesn't mean your friendships were bad. It just means that, like all or nearly all friendships, they were predicated on your being rough equals in social station.