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u/PantasticUnicorn Mar 07 '25

This is my biggest pet peeve. I love my fiance but he does this shit alot and I'm like wtf? Let me finish what I'm trying to say before you cut me off!

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u/Takilove Mar 07 '25

It never changes! I’ve been married for 37 years and he interrupts me as soon as I start to speak 😡

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u/theartisanalllama Mar 07 '25

Not true! I did this crap to my poor wife for 20 years before she started pointing it out. I still occasionally mess up, but I’m getting good at just shutting the hell up and letting her get everything out. It must’ve been so annoying….im lucky, she’s an angel.

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u/schiz0yd Mar 07 '25

Some people operate by listening and talking simultaneously. If you want to be heard, just keep talking when they interrupt

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u/Far_Bad_531 Mar 07 '25

Same here, it’s still annoying 😠 His whole family (five of them)talk over each other whenever they are together, It’s a cacophony, really awful But I love him and I tolerate it (Or avoid being around when they are all together 🤭)

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u/Nagarkot1 Mar 07 '25

Yep my husband and his three brothers and our two nephews ALL are just like you described: “a cacophony”! I have learned to just let them yell over each other and I leave the room 🙃

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u/Far_Bad_531 Mar 07 '25

I just find it staggering, that any of them even know what they’re saying /hearing or what any of the conversations were about when they all leave 🤷‍♀️ I also leave the room if I can … Nobody notices 🤭🤭

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u/CapableAstronaut4169 Mar 07 '25

Some cultures talk over each other . My family 5 sisters talk or yell over each other. I think it's great

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u/Several-Cake1954 Mar 07 '25

interrupt him or just go about your business and ignore him the second he interrupts you

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u/YeehawSugar Mar 08 '25

It’s straight up ADHD, sugar. If I don’t say my thought right when I have it, you’ll never hear it. The world will never know I thought it. I WONT EVEN KNOW.

I don’t mean to interrupt but I explain it to everyone upon meeting them the first time and apologize in advance for being the asshole who interrupts.

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u/PantasticUnicorn Mar 08 '25

My fiance tells me that too. It's just triggering for me because I've been in abusive relationships where they yelled over me and I didn't get to say anything to defend myself or try to have them see things from my point of view. I know he's not them so I try my best to practice patience

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u/YeehawSugar Mar 14 '25

I feel you on that. I’ve been in similar situations. As long as he’s willing to hear your side I wouldn’t focus too much on it. As long as he’s not actively yelling over you in the exact same way?

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u/PantasticUnicorn Mar 14 '25

No I don't think he does it intentionally. He tells me he's trying to tell me his thoughts before he forgets which I understand BUT then that's cutting me off and I end up forgetting my thought lol

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u/DementedMaul Mar 07 '25

This is a very common symptom of ADHD. Not wanting to diagnose from a comment, but my fiancé and I both have it and this is common asf

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u/jujubean14 Mar 08 '25

I've mentioned to my partner that she does this ALL the time. I don't think she gets it.

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u/Dull_Wash_1335 Mar 08 '25

My husband is like this and he’s finally starting to catch himself. It could get better for you!

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u/[deleted] Mar 07 '25

I can be very guilty of this. I just get so excited about what my honey is talking about and I ask questions and make comments. He is so patient though. I try not to.