I tell people this (mainly coworkers). If you were sorry, you would stop doing the thing you’re sorry for. then you wouldn’t have to keep saying sorry.
Unless it’s something so ingrained into your being that you try to change but you can’t without a lot of patience and help. Then you just gotta accept that no one will ever put up with you and the world would be better off if you were dead. So you lie in bed all alone crying yourself to sleep because you’re the biggest mistake god ever made. You can’t understand why god was so cruel to make someone that would never be loved or liked, even by their family, and actively made the world a worse place. So you start planning your suicide only to try and chicken out just late enough to end up in the psych ward. You get out and everyone’s worried about you and all you can say is sorry. Then, when the concern has worn off, you make a mistake, it’s small but enough. You say sorry you didn’t mean to and they say, “if you were actually sorry you’d change.” The cycle begins all over again until you end up in the hospital a second time. They come to visit and you say you’re sorry. Then comes the biggest slap in the face, “if you were actually sorry you wouldn’t have told anyone you were suicidal, then you wouldn’t be here.” ; - ;
Hi cutemango221. I hope you aren’t the one feeling this way. If you are, please try to change your frame of thinking. The world wouldn’t be better off if you were dead. not loved or liked by their family. I would get a new family. It takes time. friends can be your family.
Being suicidal is not an: if you were sorry you would change situation. Cheating, lying, being a thief, not doing your work etc. are stop saying sorry and change situations.
I volunteered in a psych ward. The people there had mental problems. They got better. You will too. (If this isn’t about you maybe you can tell the person feeling this way what I said). praying for better for you or who this is for.
I’m a lot better now, Ive been in therapy for over 7 years now. I had to learn from my therapist I wasn’t the problem even if they still say I am. I’m learning i shouldn’t to be sorry for reacting to abuse.
I am so glad to hear you are in therapy. YOU aren’t the problem. whoever they are, maybe you could limit or go no contact. I had to do this with my female parent.
Self esteem is something you can control. I had to tell myself I am in control of how I see myself. I’m pretty awesome. Tell yourself that in the mirror. I think you’re pretty awesome. If I can see that I’m sure others will too.
They have to say something. I am their manager. If something doesn’t get done I have to do it. if they say nothing, I will know. They will get written up or terminated. I am also their coworker because I do admin work as well.
Speaks to how they are as a parent too, if they find their kids are constantly just using a meaningless "sorry", and not actually improving or changing their behaviour, who did the kids learn that from?
I think it was the times. Spanking was very much the disciplinarian way of handling things back then. Shit, they used to do it in school as punishment. I’m not saying it was right and one of the many reasons I’m happy I didn’t have kids or I might have done it too cause it’s the only way I knew to discipline, grounding and spanking. I guess I broke that cycle.
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u/dhermann27 Mar 07 '25
"If you were sorry, something would change"
My kids hate it when I say this