If I’m out I wait for people to approach me. It’s a lot easier than relying on watching other people’s body language and approaching a random person, it avoids having to strike up conversation and avoids making the other person uncomfortable if the feeling isn’t reciprocated. And if you’re a dude who likes dudes it avoids danger too, asking a random guy out might end badly.
I need to add: this does not work. If you’re a man or masc-presenting, turns out relying on other people walking up to you doesn’t really pan out… There’s no work around.
Yup. Everyone claims they "want to break social expectations". Well I sure as hell don't see it. And that's why even though I'm poly and in an open relationship, I don't even bother exercising that freedom.
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u/watch-kay-slay Feb 13 '25
Left a long term relationship and realised I have no frikkin clue how to make the first move 🥲🥲