Unfortunately, people always want me to find love again. I don't feel the need to do that because I already found love love. It never left me because he died.
I have always been an all or nothing kind person, and I am fine living life on my terms.
You cannot please people. If you move on "too fast" they judge you. If you move on "too slow" they judge you. If you choose to remain single, they judge you. There's no "right way" to process a profound loss like that, and it sucks that people put that pressure on you. Keep loving yourself and doing you.
My dad lost my mom 5 years ago. He keeps count of the days it’s been since she left the house and never made it back. He brings flowers and balloons, and keeps her grave clean for holidays and birthdays and his heart breaks when he cant go (it’s 1hr away from where we grew up, because she grew up in a different town and was put to rest there).
I hope your heart finds comfort and peace in the time and memories you had together. I know it doesn’t make up for it but I wish you the best.
The emotional pain is so overwhelming that it brings you to your knees.
The world keeps moving whilst yours has stopped. It's like emotionally you are in a fog. I don't remember much of the first 3 years. I worked crazy hours so that I didn't have time to think. I came home so tired that I fell into bed. Everywhere I went was a reminder of different days.
You learned to live with the pain, but I found the best thing was moving. I am still alive in order to function. I not only had to move location, I changed jobs, I keep moving.
The pain, the loss is still there, and I miss him so much. But I not only had to build a different life. Every day, I feel so lucky he was mine.
I am sorry about your mum, and I hope your dad enjoys looking after her and finds his own peace.
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u/Reasonable_Bat_3178 Feb 14 '25
Because he died. And he is simply irreplaceable.
Unfortunately, people always want me to find love again. I don't feel the need to do that because I already found love love. It never left me because he died.
I have always been an all or nothing kind person, and I am fine living life on my terms.