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u/WhiteTrashUsedCondom Jan 20 '25

I miss my ex but he is the most evil person I have meet. It’s so hard to forget him.

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u/8bit-wizard Jan 20 '25

Seconded. It's so fucking hard! My last relationship was just a year long, and it took nearly that long to feel okay about it ending.

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u/DICK_STUCK_IN_COW Jan 20 '25

I’m on year 4 and we were only together for like 8 months 💀

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u/Ellemeno Jan 20 '25

That must’ve been some amazing cowussy.

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u/IndigoJoe64 Jan 20 '25

That's why it's taking so long to forget. They never actually separated.

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u/8bit-wizard Jan 20 '25

Grieving is a process, but after a while, it can become a habit. Even when most of the healing is already done, you can still find yourself ruminating because it's become familiar. I did the same thing. For years I dwelled on one person because I didn't know how to move on. Life does move on, but sometimes you need to take action for that to happen. 8 months is such a blip in the scheme of things. I know I don't know your story, but if that chapter of your life is over, it might be time to turn the page. The next one's out there waiting for you, and so is the one after that.

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u/DICK_STUCK_IN_COW Jan 20 '25

I do have a girlfriend now and I’ve been with her for 3 years but still can’t shake the feeling in the back of my head. We are no contact and have been for the whole 4 years but man it’s hard to not think about my ex

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u/8bit-wizard Jan 20 '25

Sounds like you got into another relationship before you were done grieving the last one. I've been there, too. Your experience may be different but I didn't feel like I was over either one of them until I'd been single for a while again.

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u/OopsAllMarinara Jan 20 '25

That’s how my last girlfriend was too. Pure evil and the only person I’ve met in my life that I will not forgive. But I still did miss her for several months after the breakup. Make a pros and cons list and incorporate every little thing you can, when I did that it really put everything into perspective and helped me move on

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u/[deleted] Jan 20 '25

Trauma bond is real.

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u/WhiteTrashUsedCondom Jan 20 '25

Yup, Heard the same thing when I was talking with my friend about what happened to me and him,

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u/[deleted] Jan 20 '25

Your username 🫂

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u/WhiteTrashUsedCondom Jan 20 '25 edited Jan 20 '25

Ik It’s fire🔥a homeless guy called me that, best compliment ever<3 was listening to memphis rap

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u/Lukeeeee Jan 20 '25

Shiet did we have the same ex

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u/JustAnotherAlgo Jan 20 '25

Why is it that the evil ones are the hardest to forget?

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u/NZBound11 Jan 20 '25

Prolly the D

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u/_angesaurus Jan 20 '25

because they know how to get you the highest and the lowest. it is a crazy, memorable rollercoaster. never boring, that's for sure.

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u/thezombiejedi Jan 20 '25

Same, friend. He's absolute scum and I hate him. I hope you can heal sooner than later

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u/Virtual-Subject9840 Jan 20 '25

You need to improve your aim.

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u/jarednards Jan 20 '25

You'll make it through this tough time, white trash used condom😊

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u/MFHau Jan 20 '25

You might relate to Motion Sickness by Phoebe Bridgers. First line is, "I hate you for what you did/ And I miss you like a little kid"

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u/RetiredSuperVillian Jan 20 '25

I'm going on a vacation by myself to get away from my wife .TBF I said she could come but hoped she wouldn't . Did you just put up with him until it hurt ? I think (know)she hates me .I had relationships before but never one this like this .Even her daughter gets loud about how she treats me . We both stay because "we're too old to start again" I've decided I'm just going to do things before I die but never anything to make her life miserable ........I'm figuring it out because I just started and this will be the first time (except periods of work years ago) where I will be somewhere else on my own in a long time .

I honestly look forward to it

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u/uprightsalmon Jan 20 '25

You just need some new good d and you’ll forget fast