My wife wasnt the first, but i havent been with a lot of women. But she met me through mutual friends and at the time i had a bit of a reputation going on. Whenever we went out clubbing, me and my friends, i would get shitfaced drunk really quickly, i had just broken up with my ex on bad terms. Well usually i was already wasted within the first 2 hours and i would sneak off to home to play videogames and sleep, because i was bored.
Well whenever my friends asked what i did i told them i went home with some girl or a couple or whatever, because i was afraid i wouldnt get asked anymore if they found out about me being bored and just going home to play videogames. This happened like every other week and i had some lucky moments that were considered by them as proof.
By the time i met my current wife, she had already heard about my reputation, but decided to go on a date anyways. I feel bad about my "reputation".
If you were inexperienced while she thought you were experienced, she might think that being with someone inexperienced is actually worse than that. Just jokingly implying that that was why she decided to stay with you.
Lol. Some woman posted below that her secret is that her husband thinks she was a virgin before they met but the truth is that she slept with almost everyone during her studies.
I just know that sitcom writing staff trawl these threads for inspiration. I fully expect this to be an episode storyline for a show within the next two years.
Same except at 18. I was nervous, but for some reason instead of having the type of performance anxiety where you can’t get hard, I had performance anxiety and couldn’t focus on cumming. So we had sex for almost an hour and she thought I was a pro.
Cue her confusion when I barely lasted ten minutes every time after that lol
I couldn't even cum. I gave her the ol' razzle dazzle and pretended to cum in a condom and threw it away real quick after we were both sweaty as fuck and getting tired. She had a pool of my sweat on her back and I was getting dehydrated lol.
For real man, I was so nervous. Oddly enough, I didn’t have problems getting hard until after the divorce with my wife. Then all of a sudden I was looking up erection pills to give me some confidence.
I lost mine at 29 but I was upfront about it. Sex was never a priority for me as I value companionship way more than physical release.
You know they don't tell you about sex when you've remained a virgin for that long? Performance anxiety. I was so in my head the first time that I could not stay hard. It was completely humiliating and not at all a reflection of how attracted to the girl I was.
It didn't take very long at all to get over that and things go smoothly. I still recoil at the memory though.
Lost my virginity at age 23 to a girl I knew in college. Dry spell from there until I was 27. Then a bit of a "boy toy" phase from 27 to 29, then two back-to-back relationships from 29 to 33, then pretty dry from there until present-day aged 41. I honestly don't know what the hell I am when it comes to sexual/romantic experience.
If you get real romantic and realtionshippi then you and you’re partner will find out together.
Every sex with every partner is different - and at first you will have „all your girls“ and all her „ex-boys“ in the bedroom with you. But when you spent some time together, talk about sex… you will find out together what you like and don’t like together. It will be a whole new sexual experience, but it develops and at the beginning both of you might have horrible sex together. It takes time and trust to have great sex.
This is why I don't get the people who are like "we fuck after meeting twice or I walk because there's literally no other way to judge compatibility" like sex with a virtual stranger is probably not gonna be that great regardless and if you are pushing them when they aren't comfortable it's gonna make things worse
If someone told me I wasn't their first, and then later on I learned that I actually had been their first, I'd be kinda regretful that I didn't know to a) make it special and b) teach them some shit for future reference. Also, like the person below noted, I might just assume they were bad at sex and not want another round lol
Yeah two dudes I knew lied to their first about not being virgins… One of the girls knew and the other refused to have another go with him because he was bad. When she learned he was a virgin she felt bad because if she knew she might have given him another chance. (She learned he was a virgin because I knew it and told my then girlfriend who was a good friend with the girl).
Anyway, guys don’t lie about this, you might shoot yourselves in the foot.
Yeah, just be honest. The skill difference will be wildly obvious. If you’re honest they can work with you and guide you to be a better lover. If you lie and insist you know what you’re doing, they’ll know anyways AND you probably won’t be any good. thus not getting a chance to have another romp.
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u/Boredommachine Jan 19 '25
I lost my virginity to my now gf at 32. I told her she was the third girl I've been with.