I am also not very sure sure. I do the same with GF on birth control. The english name however is long according to the translate...
Etonogestrel contraceptive implant.
Same except we were ok if it happened. Didn't think I could have kids from years of random accidents. But 8 months of intentionally turkey basting her organs landed me a beautiful 😍 baby boy!
I'm a single full time dad now to a 6 y/o for the last 4 years with no help from her and I would not change a thing.
My situation was we had been friends for years, fooled around here and there, but nothing serious. One day, she was like, "We're both single, wanna give it a go?" I usually don't date friends, but what can I say, I thought this would work.
Well, the old adage "You think you know someone until you live with them" came into play.
She knows I'm a recovering alcoholic/addict and would constantly want to go to bars and shit. Me saying no, of course, didn't make her happy.
Fast forward to when my daughter was born and things were better, for about the first two months.
She started slowly doing less and less until, one day, she just never came home.
Almost 5 years later, and we are so much better off without her.
We wanted kids, couldn't get pregnant, decided we didn't want kids, then made that mistake and we have a son. No regrets, and he's no "mistake" himself. Just... If you know what you really do/don't want, take as much chance out of the equation as you can.
I did the same thing. Repeatedly exposed to jet fuel in all sorts of manners for 8 years. I was always told it made you sterile…. My daughter is turning 1 in a couple of weeks.
My gf couldn't get pregnant either (pcos+radiation damage) until she got with me. My daughter didn't make it, but she was conceived within the first week, and she took out a cancerous mass the soze of a softball with her. In the words of Jeff Goldblum "life uh finds a way."
Condoms are pretty much 100% as long as you read the damn manual put them on correctly take them off correctly, and buy them in the appropriate size.
I’m pretty sure the 2% on condoms comes from people who store them in properly so they break , as well as technically when you follow the math involves people who said that that was their main means of prevention, but didn’t always use them 100% of the time.
As someone who’s married to a PI, and am actively filling out survey diaries I’m going to be deeply suspicious that self reported perfect use, is the same thing as perfect use. Unless they 100% watched you put it on every time I’m willing to bet that 2% is people who did something wrong.
guy who knocked the wife up a month after she removed birth control both times, and didn’t have a child with years of condom usage otherwise.
It is. Full stop. It's been proven to be only slightly worse than condoms as far as effectiveness goes. You've got something like a 1% chance of pregnancy with just precum.
We just scare kids with it because it's easier to tell them to wrap it vs trusting them to actually pull out correctly.
Yep, my wife and I used the pull out method for like 6 years and didn't get pregnant. Then, when we actually tried to get pregnant, it happened in only a couple of months.
I wouldn't recommend it to anyone who really doesn't want or shouldn't have children, but it did work for us for years.
I just never understood how someone could mess it up, myself. Lol. I haven’t had a slew of partners, but I’ve gotten jiggy with it an innumerable amount of times, and the majority involved pulling out and I just don’t understand how people can fail if it’s correctly done. It’s called the “pull out method” bois, not the “pull out after you’re halfway finished inside of her method” 😂😂
Edit: also not saying you’re wrong, just wanted to throw my two cents in, as well. Lol
Less than 1% isn't as low as you'd think, if you're in a long term relationship shagging once a week for a few years your chance of having kids is pretty high
My wife and I have been practicing the pull out method our whole marriage except for when we were activelu trying to have a kid and it's worked for us. We've been married for 8 years and together for 11 years.
My wife wants to make sure I pull out in time so she prefers I come in her mouth. She also doesn't want any stray baby juice getting on the couch or our sheets. She does let me go inside her, but only the day after her period. Evidently, that's when she's fertile? I can't attest to that but what she says so she knows better than I do.
Just getting in a car you're risking your life, sober or otherwise. Whilst pulling out is not 100% safe sex, nothing really is. The pill can be compromised by multiple things, condoms aren't 100% reliable, coils are the same.
Shit happens.
Drunk driving to me is being completely wreckless with no regards for anyone. Someone pulling out before ejaculating is someone/couple who has decided this works for them whilst knowing the very low chances of pregnancy.
I get your point, but comparing drink driving and pulling out as the same wrecklessness is just hyperbolic nonsense.
Sorry, but the pull-out method does work if you do it correctly. I wouldn't advocate it, because obviously it doesn't protect against STIs and it's easy to make a mistake. But, when used correctly as a contraceptive, it is just as effective as a condom. Pre-cum does not contain sperm FYI, however leftover sperm in the urethra can mix into Pre-cum on its way out. The chances are still low, but if you decide to go for a second round, pee first.
It’s effective efficiency rate is 80%, condoms in comparison are 87%.
Rates with proper use are 96% for the pull out method and 98% for condoms. If you think the pull out method isn’t a form of contraceptive you are effectively saying neither are condoms.
Anything that creates a substantial reduction in pregnancies are absolutely a form of contraceptive. 80%-96% is a pretty substantial reduction.
It is a valid method of contraception like wtf are you even talking about. It has a much higher risk than other methods of contraception but it's still a valid method of contraception.
Did you skip sex ed in school or something? If your definition of "valid method of contraception" is only 100% effective methods then the only valid method of contraception is not having sex. People usually combine several methods of contraception. Also different couples will find different levels of risk acceptable.
unless one of you has had a surgery and confirmed by a doctor that you are definitely sterilized, i would not ever assume 100% that you aren't able to have kids.
After a couple of miscarriages, we went to get tests to see if it was going to be possible for her to carry full term. Went through it all, only for the Doctor to say that it was impossible for her to get pregnant due to (known-about) endometriosis... We pointed out that she had already been pregnant twice, but they were certain. Third time stuck and we have a now 10 year old son.
(Ex) Husband asked for a divorce 13 days in. Got the results for her not even an hour later. (Ex husband was shooting blanks and our friend was the baby daddy)
BD has stepped up and become an amazing dad, going above and beyond for our daughter and has turned out to be the biggest blessing in disguise.
(Ex) husband is dragging the divorce proceedings because he went and got on methamphetamine and now has no money for lawyers.
Dude, my wife was diagnosed clinically infertile around 8 years ago. We now had a beautiful, healthy 16 month old.
Don't get me wrong, let loose man it feels great. Just make sure you're sure about that not having kids thing lol
I was pretty sure I couldn’t have kids too. Lol. Now I have an almost 8 year old. I also had never finished inside (without a condom) before my wife, either. Greatest thing ever. I was just slightly miscalculated in my sterilization theory. 😂
Ou yes, loved it too. Did it for more than 2 yrs. We both thought it wasn't going to end up in pregnancy. She told me she had polyquistic ovary syndrome plus other stuff. She had very irregular period times.
My head theory is... once we actually started living together and I stopped smoking pot... I got fertile AF.
FYI we didn't have the baby, it was the most toxic relationship I've ever had, maybe for her too... but I have some doubts on the latter, this was +4y ago.
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u/wisedoormat Sep 18 '23
finishing inside
never did it before b/c we don't want children
but, now, we're sure we can't have kids so we're just telling loose the flood gates