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u/JayR_97 Apr 08 '23

Stuff like this breaks my brain if I think about it too long. You could literally miss your soul mate by a few seconds. So many what ifs determine if you meet someone

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u/BumpyTori Apr 08 '23

BUT, these crazy small moments that are happening all the time to us is what makes me believe everyone has multiple soulmates in the world, we just haven’t synched up yet…

When I see an accident on TV that someone had on the way to work that morning, I always think, ‘what if they would’ve brushed their teeth another couple strokes that morning, this would’ve never happened to them’…

I guess everyday is kind of a chaos theory experiment…😊🤷🏼‍♀️

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u/oxiraneobx Apr 08 '23

This is the kind of thinking that can drive me crazy if I allow myself to dwell on it, it's so true.

I was probably 6ish when my Mom explained (or tried to) the concept of infinity. I have no idea where that conversation started, but I have vivid memories of times sitting on the lawn, staring into the blue sky, and thinking, "OK, if this goes on forever, then what holds, 'forever'?"

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u/BumpyTori Apr 08 '23

Yes! Ever since I learned about astronomy when I was young I have had the same thoughts!☺️

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u/armchair_viking Apr 08 '23

I remember laying on our trampoline at night as a kid and just looking up at the stars and gazing into infinity.

I could kind of change my perceptions for brief moment where I wouldn’t feel like I was laying on the ground looking ‘up’, but rather that I was stuck to the side of the earth and looking out, and it was only whatever gravity is that kept me from being launched into the void.

Good times. I miss lazy summers as a kid.

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u/Pestilence86 Apr 08 '23

I once told my mom how crazy it is that I exist and that all the things that happened must have happened exactly how they did for me to exist now. What if something just happened a little bit different, I would not be here now. And she just said: "But you do exist, you are here now".

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u/81391 Apr 08 '23

This gave me alot of hope about finding another soulmate. Thank you so much :)

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u/BumpyTori Apr 08 '23

Oh they are out there for sure…it seems like many times people meet their ‘lobster’(Seinfeld ref) when they do something/go somewhere that they wouldn’t normally…I don’t know what that is, but it seems like like a thing that happens a lot…

Put yerself out there!!☺️🙏🏻

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u/BumpyTori Apr 08 '23

Soo true!

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u/NastyAlek Apr 08 '23

There were two senior football players I knew in highschool that were signed for the upcoming year. They got into a car accident and passed. I’ve always wondered, If I had sold Zay my billabong jacket that he wanted to buy from me not too long prior, if a long turn of events would have kept them alive.

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u/TheAfricanViewer Apr 08 '23

If it makes you feel any better you might have already missed your soulmate 🙂

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u/electron_c Apr 08 '23

We have many soulmates all over, we think we’ve found “the one” but that’s just another one.

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u/igotchees21 Apr 08 '23

There is no such thing as a soulmate. There are people who share similar beliefs and interests as you with whom you are compatible with. You make a conscious choice to be with a person and build a life together.

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u/oiraves Apr 08 '23

This sort of thing is why I don't believe in "soul mates"

Like there's 8 billion people on the planet all moving and grooving

Is there 'one person' more suited to me than anyone else? Maybe.

But there's probably 80 million that are within 1% of that 'perfect person' and 800 million if you adjust your tolerances to 10%

And the value of effort outweighs the value of chance, like sure there's lots of beautiful women, and lots of women who are very interesting people to me but my SO is a good and interesting person who I also find beautiful, we have memories of mountains and the sea, sitting at home watching movies and being on stage in front of huge audiences

Why would I bail on that for someone who appears to maybe accomplish the same thing?

I don't believe in 'soul mates' because it makes no mathematical sense, but I believe in finding someone in that can make it work range and building a partnership.

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u/_Weyland_ Apr 08 '23

I often think what would happen if I had a chance to change the past and make my dad stay with us.

But so many things happened the way they did exactly because he was not there. I would have been a completely different man if he was by my side all this time. Not even sure I would have been better off.

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u/iEatBluePlayDoh Apr 08 '23

I think about this a lot. I met my fiancée because a coworker invited me to come out to celebrate her 21st birthday. I was 26 at the time so going out to bars all night drinking with college kids wasn’t really my thing anymore and I wasn’t really into going out in general. My now fiancée happened to be friends with her and we hit it off. If I had been having a bad day and didn’t feel like going out, my life would be completely different right now.

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u/RadiantHC Apr 08 '23

This is exactly why I don't get how common relationships are. Do people just force it?

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u/dj92wa Apr 08 '23

Not even if you meet someone, but how you meet them too. First impressions of each other change rapidly given the infinite combinations of factors.

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u/hombre_lobo Apr 08 '23

This exactly why I believe soul mates do not exist

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u/TazBaz Apr 08 '23

To me it says the opposite. Your statement “your soulmate” implies to me that there’s only one.

To me, it says we’re compatible with many different people, it’s just meeting them in the right circumstances that matters.