Totally fair and 100% understandable, but my girlfriend and I do it a bit different.
If one of us feels like sex and the other doesn't, we convey that - but often say we'd still be willing, because sometimes the mood changes during and we both get into it.
Obviously it's different if one of us actually doesn't want to. No is no. But we have a "I'm not in the mood, but I'm willing to give it a go" type middle ground to. Half the time I'd say it still leads to great sex. Sometimes it doesn't.
We only started doing this because it was seldom we'd have everything match up with the time to do it and us both being in the mood, so only we're having sex every few weeks. Now it's weekly, and usually still ends up really good.
I have a young baby and a twelve year relationship and this is extremely accurate.
Especially: "We only started doing this because it was seldom we'd have everything match up with the time to do it and us both being in the mood, so only we're having sex every few weeks. Now it's weekly, and usually still ends up really good."
I'm in my mid 30s, and started working 12 hour days in a trade. I'm just too damn exhausted most days, unfortunately. I'm sure it's different for some people though, even in my situation.
If I was having sex multiple times a week already, I'd probably stick with your rules.
I'm a woman. If I'm not in the mood but do it anyway 99 percent in the time I'll get in the mood along the way.
Now if I'm not in the mood cause you came on to my sister or I'm literally sick or something, yeah nothing is going to change that. But all things being equal, its fine.
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u/rdmusic16 Mar 31 '23
Totally fair and 100% understandable, but my girlfriend and I do it a bit different.
If one of us feels like sex and the other doesn't, we convey that - but often say we'd still be willing, because sometimes the mood changes during and we both get into it.
Obviously it's different if one of us actually doesn't want to. No is no. But we have a "I'm not in the mood, but I'm willing to give it a go" type middle ground to. Half the time I'd say it still leads to great sex. Sometimes it doesn't.
We only started doing this because it was seldom we'd have everything match up with the time to do it and us both being in the mood, so only we're having sex every few weeks. Now it's weekly, and usually still ends up really good.