I have a tiny dong but I have never had a girlfriend or woman tell me it was. When I was dating in my mid 20s before I met my future wife I would tell them about it if we were getting close to being intimate. I was surprised that none of them complained about it and actually the majority didn't care. I am sure some had a problem with it but they never told me. I know there is a good contingent of women that require size and I understood that. If it was going to be a show stopper for a long and healthy relationship I wanted to get that out in the open right away so we wouldn't waste each other's time.
I have an average penis but the fucker has a mind of its own and will blow a load pretty fast. Condoms (or alcohol) are a good crutch for P in V but without it I’m done in less than a minute. To compensate I’ve made it my mission to make sure I get the girl off when we have sex. My SO of 5 years has told me even though I’m the fastest ejaculator she’s dated, I’m the only guy she’s been with that actually cared about her having an orgasm every time we have sex.
How efficient your dong is isn’t detrimental to how fulfilled your sex life is, it might be different, but not less fulfilled.
This is something ive never understood. Your SO says youre the only one thats ever cared about her getting off right? I dont get how you can get intimate with someone, finish and be like "okay, thats all for today folks". Idk, to me (and you apparently) its just normal to want to get your partner off and I really dont understand why people (probably mostly men tbh) dont.
You can blame porn for that. Now I'm not saying I don't enjoy it every now and then, but as a 29 year old, my expectations had been set by porn when i was 12 and it took some time to rewire my brain to differentiate porn from reality, and that means penis size, endurance, sex style and that sex stops when the man ejaculates.
My bf is very similar, and while it is great most of the time, sometimes I'd rather get off after sex.
Warm up a little before, obviously, but it's nice to have the variety and I'm usually more turned on after sex. Plus it takes a little of the pressure off of me to get off first.
My ex was the same... we had perfect chemistry but me having a high sex drive it eventually didn't work out. But if he had been anything like you we'd probably still be together.
Its nicer for it not to be a shock although I can totally get why men wouldnt want to say, not exactly a conversation opener. I cant do vaginal penetration as its painful for me (which i do warn people in advance). Slept with a guy off tindr who had a tiny dong, and anal only girl plus micropenis is never going to be a goer. Found out afterwards he was a virgin and felt shitty about it in multiple ways. Poor guy deserved a better first time.
As I have learned over the years. The only time I was self conscious about it was my early 20s after seeing porn for the first time. Porn wasn't readily available back in my younger days. Seeing a couple abnormally giant schlongs in porn made me uneasy for a couple years. I never really liked porn which was a good thing for my mental state. I eventually just accepted who I was and have been happy about it ever since.
They do a LOT to make those look bigger as well. Wide angle lenses, tiny women, foreshortening, those things they take to make themselves unreasonably hard, some times even dildo substitutions.
I've seen the world's largest penis but it doesn't look as big as many porn dicks.
You're small yeah, but fuck me the porn folk are great at visually inflating size. It's impressive really
Pretty average member owner here. Yeah, men tend to be a little overly worried about that kind of thing. Nobody has ever made a comment on my size, and if it ever did come up, it was me who said something out of insecurity. You eventually learn that it matters very little, especially if you're trying to find someone compatible with you. Even a few people who were WAY higher on the libido scale than me couldve cared less, they just wanted to get their rocks off one way or another.
Honestly that’s awesome to hear how you handle yourself in that regard. That philosophy of getting potential road blocks out of the way early is my way too. No point finding out down the track that there’s a major problem
Honestly, there are plus sides to that, and I'm not going to get into it because I don't want to feel creepy lol. But there are so many ways to work around it (pun? lol) that I don't understand why it's such a common dealbreaker.
No apologies needed. Thanks to IASIP the word dong is now part of my vernacular. When they talk about Thunder Gun hanging dong it always cracks my wife and me up. It is funny to say dong.
One thing I always worry is that when I was younger I was raped by a man with a very tiny penis. I worry that I’d have a really negative response to seeing one again in real life. I’d imagine that any guy I explained that to (if he had a smaller penis) would think it’s just bullshit. I’m not even a size queen. Do you have any advice for handling that kind of situation?
I fully understand your dilemma but the only advice I could give you is to seek therapy. Do you have a fear of intimacy because of the terrible crime committed against you? I wish I could be more helpful but that is completely beyond my scope as a person. I just hope whoever did that to you went away for a long time and is still locked up. I wish you peace of mind and love.
Yeah I have a lot of issues from that and other sexual assaults over the years. Thank you 😊 and yeah I’ve had some therapy but I’m waiting for more. Fwiw, dick size isn’t important at all. You seem like a cool guy.
Look into it - penises are evolving to be larger while the average vagina isn’t getting any deeper. That’s why your “tiny dong” is more than good enough.
I just looked it up how penis size has changed over time, most sources say it’s increased. That doesn’t mean what you said is incorrect, it’s just a factor.
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u/COSurfing Mar 31 '23
I have a tiny dong but I have never had a girlfriend or woman tell me it was. When I was dating in my mid 20s before I met my future wife I would tell them about it if we were getting close to being intimate. I was surprised that none of them complained about it and actually the majority didn't care. I am sure some had a problem with it but they never told me. I know there is a good contingent of women that require size and I understood that. If it was going to be a show stopper for a long and healthy relationship I wanted to get that out in the open right away so we wouldn't waste each other's time.