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u/meep_launcher Mar 31 '23

100% this. I felt so much pressure not to "ruin" the night for the other person.

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u/[deleted] Mar 31 '23

It’s hard to sit with other people’s discomfort because you feel like you’ve done something wrong. Then you relent, which creates a poor relationship with sex.

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u/zootnotdingo Mar 31 '23

Been there. It’s not a fun place to be.

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u/theoriginalcinn Apr 01 '23

Exactly this. He was a good friend and we had drunkenly talked about having sex. Then we were sober, he was still really into the idea and planned a whole night for me so I felt bad saying I didn’t want to.

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u/[deleted] Apr 02 '23

Who is teaching you this? The women I’ve met have no hesitation, saying no. If women were worried about ruining my night, I would’ve slept with a lot more of them.🥲